this is my first post so i hope i am doing it correctly. I feel very guilty doing this, but as the mother of two adorable boys i just cant get rid of the yearning for a girl. I wouldnt change my two babies for anything, but the pain of not havinga girl is doing my head in. My husband and I had always said only two children and I had always thought those who tried for a specific sex were playing a dangerous game where the disappointment of not getting the sex they want would be huge, but now I can understand why people do try. (although my husband and I are still saying two is our limit - although I think I am harbouring a desire to try again, but my husband wont - especially after our youngest was a rather unsettled baby.) My husband doesnt understand (although he does listen to me talk about my feelings) and I dont feel I can talk to anyone else about it as it makes me seem horrible. Before I got pregnant I had always pictured myself with a daughter - ballet, pink clothes etc. Now I have lots of trucks, fire engines and cars, which I love and as I said earlier wouldnt change, but I still cant get my feelings of wanting a girl out of my head. I often have people ask "so are you going to try again for a girl" which I hate, and I put on a huge smile and say no way I am very very happy with two boys. Which I am, but I still want a girl. I know i am rambling, but it helps talking about these things. I feel such an ache when I hear that a friend has had a girl baby - I am so happy for them but feel a sense of loss for the girl I dont have. I just want to get rid of these feelings. is there anyone out there who has experienced the same feelings and if so how did you deal with them?




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