Very sorry to hear of your losses, ladies.

I quite like Carla as a first or middle name, personally I would have Carlo as a middle name, if for no other reason than it makes things easier at family gatherings (ie you know which person is being spoken about), but obviously the choice is up to you and your partner.

When I was pregnant with DD, her due date was the same date my grandfather died several years before. Mum hinted that she would like us to consider naming our child for him if it was a boy and was born on the due date, but DH and I really don't like the name Lewis so thankfully we had a girl, and was born two days before her due date - no awkwardness!! (And no, I'm not a fan of Louise either so that was out too!)

The baby I'm carrying now was conceived within a week or so of DH's mother being murdered - I went off the Pill on DD's birthday (the Sunday) and MiL was killed on the following Wednesday. I toyed with the idea of naming this baby for her, leaning more toward a middle name rather than a first name (I think it would just be a bit painful for all our family if we were to give this child her name as a first name), but we mainly decided to stick with our own ideas on names because Briona (my MiL) was technically DH's stepmother (although he has never had any contact with his real mother since she left him and his dad as a baby, he doesn't know to this day whether she's alive or dead, and Bri has been DH's mum since he was 5 so she's all he knew), and DH's half-brother is her biological son so we wanted to leave the option open to him if/when he has children to name his daughter for his beautiful mum.