Oh man Hoobley - did you hear my thoughts?? I was turning this over and over in my mind last night.
It's not gone off topic at all, its evolved and is actually quite relevant.

To clarify - I was a very Wild Child, so DEF I am going of my own drunken experiences as a teen.
It is the assault side of things that worry me. If she has her guard down through drink and there is no DECENT adult supervision, she could be in danger. She hasn't learnt to look for those signs yet (imho),although this weekends experience has been good.
She tells Dp more than me ( i obviously am given the 'vanilla' version)....anyhoo it turns out the very drunk girl was constantly being hit on and groped by the boys there. Now I've met many of her friends, so I know these boys. Lesson: yes they may be polite to my face but I dont know what they get up to usually.

In any case - the sex *sigh*.
So her boyfriend N has been around for awhile now. Anyone remember my thread months ago? Well its the same one and....well...he makes DD smile, he does care about her, so if he gonna be the one (I gotta face it, she's 16), I'd rather it not be some half-arsed fumble under a grotty doona on the floor.
I have spoken to her about sex etc, I've also explained the need for trust and respect to be part of the process. She has watched her friends 'hook up' pretty randomly and she isnt too impressed.

SO, I have decided to turn my back office into den for Belle and her friends. It can be hard for them to hang out here because the little ones think its Xmas and jump all over them. The telly and the stereo out there, and beanbags and stuff. I am still hammering out the 'rules' (help me on this one girls), but I would like this to be an ok place to hang out for them. There will be no drinking/smoking allowed, its not gonna be a party place, and it will be a privilege she can work for....

My head hurts....