Single Parents General Chatter - Dec 2007-Jan 2008

[Melly01]

Hey Divvy, Congratulations! I hope You're having a good day!

I have to see XP on the weekend He's coming up to watch Logan go to swimming lessons & then said we could all go to lunch or something nearby. I know it's good that he should be seeing him, but I am really dreading it. Oh well, hopefully things will go smoothly this time.

[Early Kids]

Congratulations Divvy!! Hope you had a great day

[pegasus]

hi girls

i have a new account because my ex was reading all i said on my other one.

i've been a single mum to 15 month old dd for 6 months now.

i'm still in the process of getting my own place (living in crisis accommodation, a share house. its actually a good thing, and a nice place).

i'm hoping to move north to my family, next court date is much later this year.

if you've figured out who i am, brendan'smum would know, keep it hush please, but chat to me nonetheless.

[barbie-up]

So whats new in single parent land ?

I've got to tell someone about a friend of mine - she kicked her husband out last November when she found out he was having an affair. She spent the whole of December wondering if he would leave the mistress, have counselling and would they get back together. In mid January, she met a single father and started going out with him. I heard nothing but dramas about this bloke for the next five months. She was full on and he wasn't. She exchanged phone numbers with another bloke at the pub two weeks ago and then broke up with single father man over the email last week. She has slept with pub man and he's met her kids, all in under two weeks. And tonight she tells us how shes missing single father man, rang him up to say she was dropping off some of his stuff and she started crying on the phone ...

Call me a bit slow, but faaaaaark, no one is meeting my kids unless I know it's serious. Plus, I am so enjoying being on my own with the kids and not having to answer to anyone or do anything I don't want to and make all the decisions.

Divvy - about RSVP - you met someone thru there, right ? I joined a while ago and was emailing someone who wanted to meet for coffee, but I chickened out, giving the reasons above.

I say that I would like to have a man like my job, only 12 hours a week.

How long do you wait ? I don't miss my EX AT ALL, so there is no going backwards. But how do you go forwards ?

[pegasus]

Oh jeez I have no idea how to start dating again. I fall into relationships with friends or workmates. Now I don't really have any single friends. Actually the two single friends I do have, one I've dated before my daughter's father and the other is a really good friend who became a little more than that for a brief time as I was getting over my breakup. We're still good friends and that close contact hasn't changed us at all.

I wish I knew how to go forwards. I barely have any free time when my DD is at her father's, and I'm not allowed to have male visitors at my house (share house with community organisation, no men allowed, to protect me and my housemate and the kids). And I'm not allowed to have anyone babysit at my house. I'd have to take DD to a friend to babysit, oh and I don't drive.

I don't know where to meet people, how to start a friendship and I don't know how to arrange timing for dates. God, is it really this hard? When would you give out your phone number? I'm lucky if I see the same person twice when out and about.

I agree Barb, I wouldn't want an instant partner. I'd like to see someone once or twice a week and let it slowly build up. I will be a good 2 months of real dating before he meets my DD. Of course in time he'd see photos, but I don't want him to replace her father. She has a father. One day she'll have two.

[Lilly-Pilly]

Hey, how is everyone?
I'm flat out busy at the moment, working lots, studying too, playing netball, watching DD grow up so quickly atm! Scary stuff

Div, did you end up moving out?? I remember seeing you working out budgets and stuff (money sucks..or lack of it) and what ever happened with Mr X??

Hope everyone is doing well

[Amity]

Nothing happened with Mr X... unfortunately... he needs some time to get his life together and get over his break up before moving on, so I've left him to it.

Unfortunately due to an incident in early May which has led to me issuing proceedings in the Family Court, and XH having supervised access, I haven't been able to move out. I did have a marvellous house all set up, but had to pull out at the last minute due to the issues with XH hitting DS2 and leaving a hand-print bruise on him...

I'm back at work now after almost a month off, and loving it! Will keep you all updated...