Banx, I'm sorry to hear you're in this situation.

I left my XH when my sons were 12 months, and three and a half years old. It was difficult, but I live with my parents and we (mostly) get along fine now.

Go and get some legal advice and talk to Centrelink (they can provide social workers) about your situation. It's better to be informed now than not know.

Hope things get better.

On a different note.... I get divorced tomorrow!!! WOOhOO!!!