Joey - it's so frustrating when people say what they think will help but it infact does the opposite. They really don't know what it is like to go through what us ladies in here have been through. That is why I joined BB because the only people who made me feel better were the people in here. Even though i love my DH more than anything, he just didn't have the right words to comfort me. Same with our parents, they care about us so much but they both had two healthy children have no idea what you go through when you have a m/c.
I started temping after my first m/c. After the d&c my cycle went back to normal straight away but after 4 months when I wasn't pg again I got really stressed and my cycle (which was stricly 29/30 days prior to that) went totally whacko. I convinced myself twice that I was pg when really my cycle was just late. So not only did I experience the frustration of getting af - then realising that we'd bd at the wrong time made matters even worse. I bought my bbt thermometer half way through my cycle but started using it straight away (just prior to O) and I couldn't believe how much it told me about my cycle even when i hadn't been through a whole month. Next month it was a BFP. I bought one of those maybe baby saliva things but it didn't work for me. I also tried opk's but they didn't work either (until I found some midstream ones).
My temping I felt I was in control of my cycle and at least at the end of each month I knew we'd given i our best shot rather than wonder 'did we bd at the right time' etc. Good luck with it - happy temping.
Joey - Never fear! I'm not leaving the nana's club!!! DH is DJ'ing again tonight and tomorrow night and I'm staying at home in my pj's! Actually I work tomorrow night anyway, but even if I wasn't I'd still not be going out hehe.
Oh, and an update on my legs... I didn't end up shaving them I decided to wear these cute black stockings I have, then when I got dressed at the last moment (as I always do) I decided the stockings didn't match the dress so I took them off. It wasn't until we were sitting at dinner that I realised I was now wearing a dress with a small forest on my legs!!! Luckily the night club is nice and dark and no one was rubbing their hands on my legs (besides DH of course ).
"paddle pop stick and some gaffer tape" !!!
Also, check out this forum area for the meet-ups. There are a couple in brissy too!
Joey - big big hun. On the stress thing - I had three people tell me to stop stressing and just relax the month I fell pg! My response to each of them was that if "stressing" was that effective at preventing conception they'd tell everyone to stress their heads off and chuck out their contraception!! And around here, its not stressing - its dedication (lol!). If all goes well with this pg I'll be heading to the Mater Mothers Private (aka Mater Mirage).
Jen - I am so sorry to hear that AF arrived for you and I sincerely hope that you are doing ok. Embrace the grumpiness - just go with it and it can be quite liberating!! Sounds like you are still keeping that chin up though. What an absolute trooper you are. Take it easy, rest up and before you know it, it will be o time and bd fest once again
wth - how are you doing lovely? How's the symptom analysing going (lol!). I am feeling quite sick which is good, and both bb's are sore, but the left one is more tender - ever heard of that? I haven't! Oh well I'll just go with it.... Any clues on the high prog level from the bt? Any more follow up tests or scans booked?
krystielove - hope you throughly enjoyed your night out - how cool that your ex was there when you were all glammed up with your gorgeous dh in the dj booth - hehehe! Have fun at the Melb meet up.Thanks also for maintaining the status list for this thread - you're a star
mollycat - sounds like you had a magical day with your family. I have my fingers crossed for a july bfp for you
jen and krystielove - I checked out your pics and you both look gorgeous and exactly like I'd imagined - well, pretty close to what I'd imagined anyway I've added mine too...
belly rubs to plc (12 weeks already - omg!!) and ajc (storming through the first tri!!)
Joey- Aw, hon, it's rough when people don't quite understand. But I'm sure that they're just trying to look out for you. Hubby is probably feeling exactly the same as you- men just seem to keep it a bit quieter than us ladies. Men!
And, twins? AHHHH! It would be great, but, um, I think I would be just as happy having two with two SEPARATE pregnancies. And with my "morning sickness" as bad as it was with Lilah (dropping 13kg, liver failure, general grossness) I hate to think what it'd be like with two little ones!! That being said- try and get the grin off my face everytime twins is mentioned. Heehee.
mollycat--Sounds like you had an amazing family day! Your chart looks great, bet you're going to see a coverline any time now! Looks like everyone's in line for a July BFP--lets clear this thread out!
plc--Oh, man, now I really want to go to the meet-up!! It's so unfair I live too far away! Please take lots of pics for me so I can "be there" with you girls!
joey--We all understand, hun! Prior to my m/c the only thing I did online was pay bills! There's something about a m/c that makes us crave knowledge, and not only that but we crave the answers as to why this happened: could it have been prevented, did I do something to cause this, where do I go from here, etc... My mind after my m/c was like a slideshow that continually played over and over in my mind, and the only way I could deal with all the images and thoughts was through researching everything I could find on m/c and conceiving after m/c. I must admit it was consuming, but it got me through those dark days! That's how I found this site, and all these amazing women that made me feel completely normal--more than just normal, but accepted! I also learned to accept the fact that my family couldn't get me through this because as much as they tried, they just didn't understand. It's like expecting a woman that's never given birth to appreciate labor and delivery--it's impossible to comprehend until you're there dealing with it! I truly think your family is just at a loss for words on how to comfort you, and in not knowing what the "magic words" are, it's easier for them to just pretend it didn't happen. I'm very lucky that DF now realizes how important this is for me--just yesterday he was saying how cool it was that I'm so connected to the girls here, and how we were all brought together under such heartbreaking circumstances in order to comfort and be there for each other! I think he's just happy to be off the hook--he gets to hear the funny stories about the girls instead of being constantly reminded of the sorrow and pain! As much as I would've wanted to have a healthy pg'cy, I truly feel like I was blessed in a way because I never would've met this amazing group of women! When 1 door closes, another one opens--someday you'll see the connection and you'll realize what you were supposed to learn from this situation. Just tell your family that this is what you need to do to heal and find comfort--show them my post and say, "See! It's not just me, this is healthy and normal!" You need to do what makes you feel better--so tell them I said to leave you the hell alone! ( you know I'm just kidding!) BTW (sorry, by the way) IYKWIM is "If you know what I mean"--it's confusing at first, I know! I agree with jenushka, BB is not an addiction (well, for me it is!), it's dedication! Sending you lots of
jenushka--Thanks, hun, you're making me Did you picture me with curly hair like Krystie did? lol... The pic of you and DS is amazing--you're beautiful, and DS is SO cute! You look very much like I imagined you would!
I just felt like posting, really. No news for me, except that I told my dad about the calirvoyant thing today and he was actually really happy. Geniunely happy. it was a big surprise!!
Also, who is next to test? Surely we're due for one more June BFP! Fingers crossed!!
AJC -Thanks so much. I agree. The only people that really understand are the girls in here. You are all life savers Congratulations on your preg!! You must be so excited.
KL - So glad to hear the nana's club hasn't lost you. I was starting to get worried lol !!
Jenuska - Thanks for your thoughts - I totally agree. The Mater is supposed to be really good. Well done. We don't have private health cover, so we'll just be povs in the RBH. They were really good with my first pregnancy (a trillion years ago), so I don't mind. Yours will be a little more luxurious though, I am sure. ENJOY!
Tutmae - well if that's the case. Good luck with those twins that are on the way!!!!
Jen - sounds like you have a wonderfully understanding DH. Thanks so much for your words. I totally agree with EVERYTHING you have said. And I will tell them, they better watch out, or Jen will be around to see them!!
AFM - Feeling a lot better this morning. But don't like the idea that I have to do my 'researching' in secret so as to not stress out my DH. After our BDing last night, stuck my legs up the wall and a pillow under my butt, just in case I o any time soon. Hard to tell, my temp is saying not yet, but that's not going to tell me until it's too late anyway. My hCG was at 2 on Monday and Thursday last week, so it's probably wishful thinking that it's dropped to zero and I've dropped an egg already, but whatever!!
Love you all. Thanks so much for the continual support!! You are the best
Sounds like you need a hug joey.....
I decided to wear these cute black stockings I have, then when I got dressed at the last moment (as I always do) I decided the stockings didn't match the dress so I took them off. It wasn't until we were sitting at dinner that I realised I was now wearing a dress with a small forest on my legs!!! Luckily the night club is nice and dark and no one was rubbing their hands on my legs (besides DH of course 
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you know I'm just kidding!) BTW (sorry, by the way) IYKWIM is "If you know what I mean"--it's confusing at first, I know! I agree with jenushka, BB is not an addiction (well, for me it is!), it's dedication! Sending you lots of 
Did you picture me with curly hair like Krystie did? lol... The pic of you and DS is amazing--you're beautiful, and DS is SO cute! You look very much like I imagined you would!
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