BekZ & SP - I was told by my old (idiot) GP to wait 3 months to allow the endometrial lining to build before trying again. How that makes any sense I do not know, as the lining breaks down every month! Who knows. After both m/cs I decided to wait one cycle before trying again to allow some time to recover, and as I have long cycles and it took a while to O after each m/c, this wait will probably be 2 months anyway, and the wait after my first m/c was 10 weeks before TTC again. I have done a lot of research and a lot of the time the reason for waiting seems to be to allow the dr to date a subsequent pg, but with dating scans, I don't really see how this is necessary! I had a lot of trouble getting a straight answer on this one too, as the hosp dr told me there was a higher chance of m/c if you tried again in the next 3 months, but since then I have found out that there is no scientific backing for this at all.
I think at the end of the day, it is up to each individual to decide when they are ready to TTC again.
SP - I am not brave at all. I just have no choice - if this is what I need to go through to have the family I have always wanted, then this is what I have to do. The only alternative is to give up, and I am def not prepared to do that, not at this stage anyway. It does suck though - I am so jealous of those people who get pg, and it results in a baby. I never have that certainty and will never again feel that excitement at a BFP. I suppose all of us are like that now, and it really does take a lot of the joy away and replaces it with fear at a time in our lives when each and every one of us should be so happy.
Bek - your poor SIL - I am so glad it all worked out in the end. Why could your stepmother not have girls? Please try not to worry about this happening to you again and about there being a problem - my specialist has said there is only a 20% chance of finding something wrong even if you have all the tests done after recurrent m/c. There is a 1 in 4 chance of m/c in every pg, so someone has to be unlucky enough to roll the unlucky number on the dice a few times in a row with no underlying cause. And the fact that you already have one healthy bub prob means your chances of m/c or having a problem are even lower. You have done it before, so of course you can do it again!
Well, I hate O'ing late! I am on CD13 and I don't think I will O til about CD20 again... so annoying. And I always have this background fear that the cause of my m/cs could be such late O. Hopefully some of the tests I have had done will tell me one way or another what is going on. Only one week until my RE appointment.
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