TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08 #2

[Baby Angels]

Gooooooood luck on the POAS but DONT let it be the end of the world if its not BFP. I m back to CD 9 after my recent 2ww. So best of luck but PLEASE dont work yourself up to the point where you will be devistated with a negative result.

If you try to find a positive out of it..... If you havent worked out yet, thats something I always try and do..... The positive is that they are short cycles.... its not like each cycle is 6 months or a year. By the time you get over the fact that it was a negative,its nearly time to BD again. I find the biggest trick at the moment is making sure i m not chitty at DH at BD time........ LOL

So absolute best wishes for your POAS..... many many many

Tempus.... sorry about AF...... join me on the seat in the leading up to "o" I ve got a week to lead up to BD..... he snuck one in last night ..... TMI... but he can back off between now and then. Like I ve already said.... hopefully I m talking to him at BD time. There seems to be a pattern happening at the moment... when I m "o" I m peeved at hime..... when I m about to AF have to have it.... I know.... TMI again. But it seems to be the cycle for me at the moment.... not sure on how to work on that one....

ll80..... NEVER...... ohhhh toooo funny.... laughed at that one.... soooooooo similar to myself when it comes to excersice. I ve always said I was to busy. Well not busy no more.... I have it set now.... Monday mornings is cycle studio.... Tuesday nights is tread mill and boxing circuit (hey the boxing circuit might help get my frustrations with DH sorted so i BD on time.... heyyyyyyy love it when a positive pops up like that) Wednesday morning is body balance... thursday is tredmill and body balance and friday is body pump..... saturday and sunday are OMG it got throught the week and monday back to Cycle Studio again. Plus I ve got BL club website that counts it all for me... it has me on over 2000 calories a day.... Ohhhh well.... If i can do IVF and Accapunture then I can do this...... ONE DAY AT A TIME!

Jodsan..... Dont believe in excessive dieting.... eating healthy YES... eating silly... NO..... Exercise will be between and hour and an hour 1/2 five out of 7 days a week. Thats more to get myself addicted to it and a habit of my work week.... there is deffinately a theory there.... my head space if I do it every second day is "ohhh I ll do it tomorrow" and of course tomorrow never comes.

46...... 46......46..... thats 46 KG I have to loose so thats enought to get my butt (HUGE BUTT AT THE MOMENT.....LOL) out of bed each morning to go to the Gym.

[ll80]

Good Luck Angel. I'll try not to influence you with the tempting idea of cakes and all things that are naughty!
Perhaps now that you're all nice and motivated you can come and kick my butt into gear.
Actually ... I wonder how much BD'ing counts in your weekly excerise routine.
I'm sure I could amp it up to compensate a bit

..Laura

[berecca623]

Katie girl and Tina K - Good luck for POAS and lots of for you both!

As for me, well I am pretty sure I have o'd by now. Monday and Tuesday were + OPK and tonight -. Think that is where I went wrong last time, I didn't keep doing the OPK once I got a + and then I think I missed out on night 2 of BD. Sorry for TMI but last night didn't think it was gonna happen either, we just couldn't seem to get it to work. Got there in the end, just. Sorry did say TMI. Today I have felt terrible as DH had been sore and then we still BD'd and this morning I appologised and said I hadn't taken his feelings into consideration, I am a cow, one tracked mind, etc, but he is beautiful and said he wants it just as much as me and that is why he was still willing to get there! Sometimes I remember why I love him so much!!!

So for me and everyone else in here close to or just o'd, and saving on hold for the rest of you until you get here:

[Canary]

Hey Girls,
All this talk of exercise and healthy eating has kicked my a$$ into gear, I'm off for a run in a few mins, so I will have to be quick.
Just wanted to mention PbStar- Well done on the 1.2kg loss! It IS a significant amount and you should be proud! Sorry, but as you may have already gathered, I am the last person to offer advice on staying sane in the 2WW period! I did notice that I felt really relaxed when I went away for the weekend, but it is just not practical to go away for two weeks of every month!

Thanks, tempus, for your charting advice and sorry to hear about AF arriving. Good luk for this month, I really think that March is going to be a good one for us all.

As for me, well I was a bit silly. AF should be today (CD32), but then I realised that, according to ff, I will not be 14DPO until tomorrow. Added to this, I became very impatient and tested yesterday to get a BFN. Booo. Feeling quite optomistic, though, as (I have already said, once or twice) March is a good month! I have all sorts of plans to increase my chances next cycle. If AF is not here tomorrow, I will test again on Fri because I want to have a glass of wine on Fri night!
Well, girlies, it IS Wednesday..... any BFP's, Katie and Tina???

[nicksterUK]

Hi all- wow, am very excited about those of you POAS- hurry hurry hurry!!!

I am lurking, just not 'posting' at the mo- no particular reason (don't worry) just kind of 'waiting' and 'monitoring'. You lot don't want to hear all my woes (seriously- you DON'T!) even tho I know you're all so brilliant I just can't offload as it's all a bunch of twaddle really Lol I'm not leaving this thread and I'm not joining PAML yet.. not till I'm ready. I wanna stay here a bit longer

Tummy is protruding now, boobs have grown a bit (DH very excited) and felt sick tonight cooking dinner so symptoms are reassuring me a little. The '*****' at work snapped at my boss today while she was having a rant about me- she said 'is Nicki pregnant cos she seems quite pale and was really snappy with me?' (no that's just normal luv since I can't stand you!!) and my boss said 'How bloody insensitive considering what happened at Christmas' so that shut her up! I want to tell them all, but can't bring myself to do it yet (mind you, the belly will give it away soon!)

Big hugs and tonnes of for you all for BFP's very very soon
Extra special hug Angel- you so know just the right thing to say- you're a real mate and I really, REALLY appreciate it xx (note the ticker! Not ready to do a pg one yet- bloody coward are'nt I? Bet I get to 9 months before I relax- actually, probably not even then ha ha!!)

Well I'll take my neurotic body and mind away for a long soak in the bath! Love n hugs all! Still got everything crossed for you xxx

[pbstar]

morning girls

well today marks the halfway mark in my TWW- yay! but knowing me i won't be waiting a whole week to test, i'll be lucky to get through the weekend....i guess you could say i am addicted to POAS...luckily this month i discovered the joy of the OPK so i got to POAS even more!!

to angel babies and the other girls getting motivated on the weight loss thing i wanted to recommend the biggest loser cookbook- i have been having some yummy recipes...last night was fish and chips and it was really yum, didn't taste healthy at all! and only 200 calories...

plus they even have a recipe for chocolate fudge cake...

tina- sorry to hear about the BFN- any chance it could be too early to pick up a positive?

hope everyone else is doing well

[Katiegirl]

Hi all. Well I won't hold out any longer. I woke up at 5:30am and realised I was not going to get back to sleep, so I woke DH and told him that I was going to go and test. I did 2 tests - the brand I used yesterday (and on Tues when I got the negative) and a new one - Discover. Well.....the Discover came up straight away with a !!! The other one - Pregnosis came up with a slightly darker than yesterday but still faint positive. So I guess this is all pretty conclusive. I am happy, excited, stunned, shocked, nervous, scared....you name it! I don't think it has fully sunk in yet. My kinesiologist made me up a flower essence mix yesterday and she told me it will help with my fear (which is high). I am going to call the GP this morning and try make an appointment for tomorrow to get the BT to confirm. I also need to call my Ob to let him know. The appointment we have with him in 3 weeks will be at the 7 week mark so that will work well.

Tina - sorry to hear about the BFN - when is AF due? Until it arrives you are always in with a chance.

Thanks to everyone for sending me positive vibes and support. I am like Nickster - I think it will take a bit of nudging to move me to PAML! I want to work really hard on being positive though, as I want this pregnancy to be a successful 9 months.

[tina_k]

well, i knew it, for me...ugh, feel like this is never going to happen.
I really hope that some of you other ladies who are POAS this week have some better news soon...

[plc1805]

hello ladies!!

katiegirl - huge belated congrats on ur fantastic news - well done and well deserved!!!! look after your mind, spirit and bod now....sending you positive positive vibes to get u thru these coming months.
brockstar - congrats too hun - so very pleased for you! of course you are experiencing all of those feelings - I know I would be - just take it one day at a time, keep rubbing that belly and keep positive thoughts and tell urself that u deserve this blessing.
Nickster and Starrysky - you are both in my thoughts and I am wishing you all the best for continued health and happiness!
Magda - hey hun! glad to hear you sound more up-beat! you know, after my m/c in jan 07 we deliberately avoided (or didn't try as much to)TTC in march for fear of a Dec baby. but after subsequent m/c and TTC for the longest of time, a Dec baby doesn't matter so much. having said that, have to wait til April to TTC anyway. amazing how your mind changes on these matters. I have to say ur son is very special to be born on such a well-recognised day.
ll80 - it would be kind of cool if you got the go ahead to TTC and managed to conceive underneath the radar (wayward sperm) in the meantime. If not, I'm hoping it happens for you very soon....
Angel babies (bday buddy) - well done on your gym work outs - hopefully your motivation will rub off on me. keep up the great work!
tina - hun - am so sorry about your bfn!!! I am that you will be blessed very soon! keep strong!
jodsan - my prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time - hugs hun!!
betty - hun, when I want to say something to you, I feel I never find the right words to say how I hope things will turn around for you....
canary, AJC, pbstar, tempus, berecca and the lovely ladies I have missed - hello, hugs, happiness to you all. I'm sure we can still muster up some cyber cakes to have while we are taking breaks from gyms - cyber or real

[plc1805]

brockstar - similar thing happened to me and my OBGYN suggested an early u/s to determine the weeks.

[Magda]

Hi Ladies,

Hope everyone is doing well today. I just wanted to quickly ask a question, I have to go get showered and dressed.

Brockstar: CONGRATULATIONS! So happy for you. And you know what who cares what people think, people are not going through what you are. You know I am going to go through that with my family but I don't care want they think.

Anyways, last night I went on FF and imputed my temps for the last week. This is the first month that I have imputed my temps, although I took my temps in January I did not imput it into FF big mistake because apparently I had my dates all wrong I actually just ovulated last Tues. a week later than I thought I did and I did not BD then. No wonder I did not become pg. So this is my question can you ovulated just 5 days before AF arrives?, because that what happened to me.

So in march I am forecasted to o on cd22. I always thought I o'd between 12 and 17.

But this month I am going to bd around cd14 and cd22 to cover my basis.

So I am actually feeling excited.

Have a great day.

[Canary]

Brockstar- congratultions!

Katie- Sorry I put the wrong name on my last post- hope you can forgive me?

AngelB- You always know what to say! You really cheered me up today.
I got another BFN this morning and although I kinda knew it was going to happen, I still felt sad. I rode to work on my bike and passed a young mum with a toddler. When I got to work, I found myself in tears in the ladies. Must be because AF is on her way. I thought that I was making a good emotional recovery since the m/c, but this BFN has unexpectedly stirred things up. I am felling much better now, though, after reading all of your posts and seeing Brockstar's BFP in there.

I also have some great plans for TTC this month and I'm glad to see that you share my optomism about the month of March, Magda. I dont know for certain, but I understood that the luteal phase (ie between O and AF) is usually the bit of your cycle that tends to stick to 14 days. It could be because of your m/c disrupting your cycle, but they should go back to normal within two months. HTH.

Sorry to be in a bit of a low mood today, ladies. I'll be my usual self next time.
C