thread: Trying to Conceive after Still Birth/ Late Loss/Recurrant Miscarriage ~ December 2008

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  1. #1
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    Dec 2008
    Melbourne, VIC
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    Hi girls

    Hi you lovely ladies,

    Well, for those of us who are not really looking forward to xmas, it's almost over....I know it's a really sad time for most of us...

    Jo, I hope you're getting plenty of 'good' rest in hospital, and I hope you can go home soon. Like Helen said, you're at the best possible place ATM. Good luck hun ! And thanx for your good wishes in 2009

    Sue, it's a girl ! congratulations hun, I hope all goes well.

    Diana, sending you huge huge hugs, I know how disappointed your are hun But don't worry, our time will come soon...I can feel it in my 'waters'....

    Hi Theresa, Helen, Rozzie and Hammi, wherever you are I'm sending you all big hugs XXX ( hope I didn't forget anyone...)

    PS Laney, I hope you had a lovely birthday !

    Once again ( in case I don't post again before xmas ) I wish all you lovely ladies TTC massive amounts of and for those carrying little bubs all the very best in your pregnancies ! Merry Christmas to all, let's hope 2009 brings us lovely surprises and is a happy, healthy and safe year for us all

    Love
    Beata.

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    Aug 2008
    Canungra, Gold Coast
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    I never realised just how hard Christmas would be!!!! It was supposed to be so different! I almost feel like I just can't do this. I want to go to sleep and never wake up - it is just too painful. I miss my little boy so much and I don't know how to cope with him not being here. I thought I was being so strong and doing so well - but I am not.

    Sorry for the ranting but I know you will understand and not judge me.

  3. #3
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    Oct 2008
    Sydney
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    I just wanted to send you a big hug Zacharysmom

    I remember xmas last year for me and it SUCKED. It took me by surprise as I hadn't really known what to expect and then when it hit me it was horrible. I felt so separate to everything that was going on and to all of my family as everyone sat around the xmas food having lunch. You are not alone in feeling how you do.
    I also found NY eve incredibly tough last year - not sure if others did. Although it was good to farewell the worst year of my life it was also hard to say goodbye as it had also been the best year of my life where I was blessed with my boy and I wouldn't have changed that for anything, despite how it turned out. Not sure if that makes sense.

    I hope everyone else had as good a xmas as they could have xx

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    Theresa, I'm so sorry you feel such pain. My heart is just breaking for you. I wish I could make you feel better . Just know that I'm thinking of you and your angel Zachary, and I'm sending you lots of strength in this difficult and hard time. I'm sending you big, big hugs darl .
    I found myself thinking a lot about Joshua over Christmas, wondering if he'd feel happy inside my belly, celebrating Christams with me, had he still been here....they say bubs are in tune with your emotions when you're pregnant...

    Jo, I hope all is going well with you.

    Love always

    Beata.

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    HI Everyone,

    Just wanted to send everyone my love and thoughts. Christmas is a difficult time when you lose your little ones.

    I will not be posting anywhere under the Loss section in 2009 (my NYR) so wanted to take this opportunity to wish everyone all the very best in TTC and send my deepest heart felt wishes that all your baby dreams come true.

    Beata - Hun I wish you all the love and hugs in the world hope we can be buddies in the same due date group

    Bestest Wishes, Love and Hugs for all.

    Nae x x x

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    Sep 2008
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    To all my wonderful BB friends, hello and big hugs.

    I wasn't able to log on the past few days as DH left his laptop at work Xmas Eve so I made him go and get it today because a few days without a dose of you all it just way way too much.

    I am guessing all of you have a very emotional Xmas day so not even going to bother asking how it went. I cried and cried all day long and was very upset that noone bothered to ask me why - I know that they know why I was sad but nobody even thought to acknowledge my sadness or mention Sebastian, they just ignored me! I am so upset and cranky.

    Xmas this year was just horrid and I am so glad it is over. Now we just have to get thru NYE and hope for a more positive year ahead for us all.

    Jo! I wasn't able to spy on you the past few days but was thinking of you so much. How are you? Oh how I am praying your cervix is staying nice and long and strong. Are you still in hospital? Tell me everything!

    Lots of love
    Diana xxx

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    Hello beautiful girls,

    Nae, I so wish and hope for us to be in the 'same due date ' group !!!!! That would be just so fantastic, fingers crossed hun Huge hugs coming your way !

    Diana, I'm so sorry hun that you had a crappy day . No one really asked me about how I was going on xmas day apart from my DF's SIL, which was a total sorprise as I don't really get along with her LOL. Maybe it was because she'd had some wine and was feeling fearless ???!!

    Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

    Love
    Beata xxx

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    Dec 2007
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    Can these last few days of 2008 drag on any longer? Please be over this year!

    Thinking of you all and feeling what you feel.

    Hugs.

  9. #9
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    Oct 2008
    Sydney
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    Hi lovely ladies
    Sorry for a short message - my net here at the hospital is sooo incredibly slow that I can half complete a crossword just trying to log in!

    Lan - sorry to read that AF showed for you. Stupid cow!

    Glad to hear everyone else is doing well and I hope those of you TTC have some luck to start the year. I remember TTC again after Luke and our m/c and it was a horrible time.

    Nothing new to report from me - hospital food is gross now and I am sooo over it! Mum is making me some dinner tonight though so that will be a nice break. My next u/s is on Wed afternoon so my fate for the near future will be decided then. The nurses told me to be prepared for the move to Westmead as they havent seen anyone go home from here with my situation but maybe my cervix will defy all odds and grow to some phenomenal length! Ah well I can dream...
    Either way we are less than 2 days away from our first goal of 24 weeks so that is a great thing. It is a real struggle trying to keep up the positivity sometimes but I am trying.

    Take care everyone and sorry for the lack of personals x

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    Jul 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
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    Hey Jo, glad to hear you are finding ways to get through your bedrest. I have everything crossed for you and your little girl. Only 2 days away from 24 weeks is at least something positive to focus on and as much as hospital must totally suck for you it is obviously the best place for you and your little girl to be.

    I was born in Westmead hospital I think!! There must be something in that

    Take care of yourself.

    Paula
    xox

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    Jan 2008
    Pittsburgh, PA
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    Hi Ladies,
    I'm sorry for the lack of personals. I have been having a difficult week. Monday is the ultrasound that I have been worried about for 4 months now. I just can't seem to stay positive. I feel our little man wiggle and kick everyday now. Today was a quiet day, only a few here and there. Quiet days make me think that there is something wrong. I keep thinking about how quiet Shelby got her last few weeks. I can't imagine having to go through another loss. I'm not too sure how I am going to hold it together in the waiting room at the doctor's office. I guess I just need a few hugs to help me get through the next couple of days.

  12. #12
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    Oct 2008
    Sydney
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    Sending you a massive hug Laney!!!
    Sounds like we have a big week for u/s this week - you, me, Rozzie and Helen I think?

    Oh and little Lily that is due 10 May - that is my birthday and also falls on Mothers Day this year...good sign I think! x

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    May 2008
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    Huge week for U/S's!!! Laney - I am sending you the biggest hug I could possibly imagine your way, I hate scans on Mondays & Fridays, the weekend waiting is torture on top of everything else. Good luck to all of us having one next week and big belly rubs for all the other preg ladies and babydust to all our TTCer's!

  14. #14
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    Dec 2007
    Sydney
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    Laney, for the lack of anything useful to say to you, may I offer you three squishy hugs

    Although nothing but a good scan will make you feel better, I guess logically we can say that every pregnancy is different and there's no reason for you to receive anything but good news on Monday. Shelby and Parker, hug your mummy tight and tell your little brother to kick up a storm for mummy's sake!

    Paula, have you only started charting this month? Usually FF lets you display 2 or 3 charts but I can only see your current one. I love your positive feeling, please keep it up so I can ride on your coat tail :-)

    Hi Diana! CD12, I hope you're putting in some good work with DH :-) It's sadly beautiful that Sebastian was buried with his grandma. I'm glad he came and visited you when you needed him.

    Tildy you've got a lot of self-control waiting until Kebab's birth to find out the gender. I think that's really lovely. I have no such control. After you clear out his/her room, maybe you can put something on layby as a next step. I'm really looking forward to you and Rozzie getting over the 30wk mark. Then it's countdown time!

    Jo (Luke's mum), I hope your cervix amazes everyone next week with its stunning lengthening too. Where are you at the moment (since you mentioned moving to Westmead)? Diana and I are going to deliver there! What's your mum making for your dinner :-)

    Helen, 18wks! Yay! Remember I'm betting a girl for you.

  15. #15
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    Jul 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
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    Lan: I just figured out how to add 2 charts but thats all it will let me. I put my last 2 full cycles which were the confusing ones... 2316aa Ovulation Charts

    Laney: you poor love, I agree with Lan, I'm on a wave of positivity at the moment so I will send some your way. What a week next week for so many of us!

  16. #16
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    May 2008
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    oooo Paula, you are a hard nut to crack! I would say, uhmm 'In my proffessional opinion!' 1/11/08 ovulation at day 14, but on 29/11/08 possibly day 15 or 16, that's the hard one. But in saying it's hard, bear in mind a normal luteal phase ( after ov) is usually 12 -16days in length, so if you count back from the start of your period it gives you roughly the 14 day mark which is your (2nd) temp rise. There is a definite rise on both charts which I think is the latter date, even if your cm doesn't really correspond with the rise, it's doesn't always. I would never have much and if I did it was never the right time! Were you taking the prog supp in the 29/11 chart? I ask because your temp dropped short before your period came, will be interesting to see what happens this cycle!!! Those temps should sky rocket and not land for i'd say 9months??? I hope I made some sort of sense in all that rambling...