Woooh, I love logging in and finding heaps of posts to read.
Rozzie, you're having such a hard time. Being asked about your baby is like being punched in the gut, isn't it? It physcially knocks the wind out of you. Do whatever makes you feel better, Roz. Buy the bigger size uniform and don't go maternity until you're ready to. Your peace of mind is the most important thing for you and your bub now.
Tildy, fantastic news on your Ob appt. Keep moving up placenta!
Katie and Jo, I would love to catch up with you guys. I actually thought of it before the trip but didn't want to just throw myself at you and also I had two very full days of meetings. Next time!
Jo, that's wonderful that they included Jack in Madison's certificate along with your older kids.
hey girls!
you were all very busy overnight. I have just been called into work earlier so had to pop on before i went!Luckily it is just 10 mins up the road!
Thank you all for sharing in my (weird) happiness re: birth certificate. I wrote it because for those of you who have had later losses i thought you may be able to do the same thing with your next babies certificates when ordered. I just wrote his name and gestational age then stillborn in the spot about previous children and they included him! so with your next baby certificate you should all def try to get your angels name on it! I think it has also semi helped in "closure" not that it is closure but i hope you all know what i mean as last night i really began to think about ttc. Depending where i am at and what they say to me at monash maybe dec we will try as i want to get to a natropath and go go on my folate again for about 2-3 months beforehand....ok, maybe that will the extent of my convo on that topic as i have just got teary!
mrs robbo -man, you put a HUGE smile on my face with your "picture me right now doing that black woman thing with my hand and saying don't make me come over there and whoop your skinny white ass now girl friend" - thank-you for starting my morning off with that! (even though it was strong advice to cindee -i just loved the way you put it!!!!) I love that we feel so comfortable with each other that we can go stern if ness! Because we care!!
hammi - I would make the time for you! next time....
cindee -2am!!!! please take care ok! Don't burn yourself out!!!
hgirs -you are not being silly - everything has much more meaning to us now!and we do tend to second guess everything! A holiday whichever way it comes will be good for you!
whichever stage of prep you are at! katie has been on trips galore it seems (to me anyway!) and look where she is now!
sue - hope you are ok and feeling good about all of love for you to stay with us!!!
rozzie -dh came home last night and said we have been invited to a party this sat. Only prob is that a couple who lost their baby on the same day we lost jack (they were 10 weeks) are preg again and have already been into work to show off her new belly (just before we lost madison) and i still don't think they know that we was preg or that we have lost another baby. I told dh i don't think i can go even tho the hosts are being really thoughtful about my emotions at this time -i don't think i could face her belly right now or having to explain why my emotions will be out of wack. its so bloody hard and it sucks that we are out in these positions after all we have been through already! I am happy for them and that things are going well for them this time - i just don't need to do the explaining. Take care of you, ok!!!! Do what you need to to look after yourself!
katie - i'll facebook you later re: your ob!
ok, have to go! i will, be late for work! argh!!!! hi to all i have missed!
have a great day! x jo
Thank you so much for the lovely emails about staying. I am so glad you all feel that way. I feel that I know all you guys and that I feel so much more comfortable here.
Tildy - I am so so happy all is OK and congratulations on passing your driving test.
Rozzie - I am so sorry about the end of your working week. I must be so hard trying to explain all the time and bringing up emotions. Maybe your work should have advised people (especially in your dept) about what has happened, so that you didnt have to deal with that. I will be that your NT scan goes well on Wednesday and will be thinking of you.
Katiegirl - how exciting to have all the aches and pains.....
Lan - Your are not being silly with your holiday plans. We all go through these emotions, but you need to do what is best for you and DH. If you need sometime alone, that sounds even better!!!
Cindee - Glad things are going so well Have you still been fainting??? My god girl, get some sleep - 2 am!!!!
Mrs Robbo - what a lovely thing to do with the in-laws, I bet they feel so priviledge to do this with you in memory of Charlie. My DH and I put our tomato's in last weekend. So I await to hear of all the abundence of tomatos in the following months... he he he
Jo - I am so glad having Jack on the birth certificate of Maddison helped party with the closure. It is lovely that both little angels are remembered in such a simple way which is so important. With TTC you must be very emotional, which is totally understandable. Maybe focus on getting fit, healthy, see a naturopath etc and see how you feel in a couple of months. I must admit, I think the naturopath helped me in conceiving naturally this time.
Well with me, had another bout of severe cramping after bowel movement this morning. I ended up ringing the Ob and the secretary asked me if I had been eating cabbage or brussell sprouts etc and I said Yes, as I love this food and she actually said this could be the reason, as they produce a lot of gas...... I am so glad there is not bleeding with it!!!!
Well it is my DH birthday today, so we are heading off to dinner tonight to a lovely restaurant - looking forward to it.
thanks everyone
mrs robbo-- i might be skinny behind but my belly looks like im 5 months pregnant instead of 2 months. but it was pretty funny had to buy maternity wear already.
been busy studying and doing assignments as next wek is last week of school and ive got a lot to hand in. kids have been sick a lot this term so ive gotta catch up.. cant wait till chrissy that means no more study .. Yay
other than that ive got more blood tests today.. sooooo much fun.. just hope my son doesnt try to attack the pathologist while the needles in my arm again last time i had a bruise for over a week.
bp good atm. drugs are doing the job atm...
anyway id better go ive got stuff to do.. might go swimming later too its getting hot here...
be back on later..
hope everything is going ok with everybody..
Jo - don't go to the party if you think it will be too hard. Being faced with a pregnant belly especially if they potentially don't know about Madison could be very hard. Just do whatever feels right. You need to learn that sometimes you have to protect yourself and if that comes across as selfish...who cares! I am not sure I could put Nathaniel on the form you mentioned as he technically was not a stillborn because I didn't deliver him. I wonder if it matters all that much - I could just write his name and write stillborn and see if it gets through?
Hgirs - just thinking back to all the trips I have done this year (and yes Jo is right there has been a few) - there was one work conference I pulled out of because it was in Alice Springs and I would have been away from DH and my Dr for a week. I didn't fancy having something go wrong and being stuck in Alice so I pulled out - I was only about 14 or so weeks pregnant and had not told work etc. I have also managed to always plan Ob appointments prior to going away - for instand I saw my Ob and then went to Syd for 5 days (I was with my mum so that made me feel a bit safer). And your DH is probably right, you both would probably prefer to have some time alone rather than with 10 other people.
I feel so lazy today. The unit is a pigsty...I was hoping my nesting would kick in but no such luck. I have a lot of errands to run as well but the couch looks very inviting at this point. Maybe a cup of tea and some bad midday tv and then I can get myself moving again?
Now, where was I? Interrupted by work, once again!
Paula, you made me laugh out loud at the thought of you ballooning into a big black woman doing the "girlfriend" thing. So, was the holiday just what you needed? Did you get to soak up sunshine and relax?
Wooh Jo, I'm excited that you may TTC in Dec - with Paula and I
I booked in for "pre-conception counselling" with a Dr recommended by another forum member who saw him after her son was stillborn. The earliest appt I could get is 7 Nov so I definitely will have to wait till Dec. Sometimes I feel particularly hopeful and want to TTC right away but not a clever idea while selling/moving house !
So Katie, have you got the pregnancy waddle? Hee! Why bother tidying up the unit when you know that when you bring bub home you'll probably be throwing things around anyway
Lan - great to hear that you are seeing a dr and having pre-conception counselling. That is what my ob calls it as well, and I think it took close to 3 months to see him as well. He ran all sorts of extra blood tests on me. As it turns out I was already pregnant so my next appointment with him ended up coinciding with being 7 weeks preg. That first appointment gave me a sense of hope and I felt that I was doing something positive and it really seemed to help with my grief. I hope you like the dr and find him to be competent and compassionate (a really wonderful mix).
And yes I am getting a bit of a pregnancy waddle. I must look very attractive! I will let you all in on a secret (because I know you all do or will do this) - I still check the toilet paper everytime! I don't know if it is now just a habit or if it is still a paranoia thing.
Jo - I will call my obs office today to find out the rest of the tests I had done. You know we will all be right here to hold your hand if and when you decide to TTC again.
Cindee - I know you probably said already but what are the assignments for? Your ticker is moving forward very nicely!
Sue - I also asked about cramps and had to admit that it was probably severe gas! The things we find ourselves talking about. I hope you are feeling well.
Tildy - congrats on 12 weeks! Is your scan this week?
Rozzie - congrats also on 12 weeks. When is your scan? How are feeling - I am sure you had a relaxing weekend after your week back at work and all 'those' questions.
that your NT scan goes well on Wednesday and will be thinking of you.
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