Jo - don't go to the party if you think it will be too hard. Being faced with a pregnant belly especially if they potentially don't know about Madison could be very hard. Just do whatever feels right. You need to learn that sometimes you have to protect yourself and if that comes across as selfish...who cares! I am not sure I could put Nathaniel on the form you mentioned as he technically was not a stillborn because I didn't deliver him. I wonder if it matters all that much - I could just write his name and write stillborn and see if it gets through?

Hgirs - just thinking back to all the trips I have done this year (and yes Jo is right there has been a few) - there was one work conference I pulled out of because it was in Alice Springs and I would have been away from DH and my Dr for a week. I didn't fancy having something go wrong and being stuck in Alice so I pulled out - I was only about 14 or so weeks pregnant and had not told work etc. I have also managed to always plan Ob appointments prior to going away - for instand I saw my Ob and then went to Syd for 5 days (I was with my mum so that made me feel a bit safer). And your DH is probably right, you both would probably prefer to have some time alone rather than with 10 other people.

I feel so lazy today. The unit is a pigsty...I was hoping my nesting would kick in but no such luck. I have a lot of errands to run as well but the couch looks very inviting at this point. Maybe a cup of tea and some bad midday tv and then I can get myself moving again?