Sorry I have been MIA- I caught a nasty GI bug this past few days--totally not fun, and then I gave it to DH--so we had a lovely weekend by the toilet! I actually thought it was going to ruin this cycle for me, but I was pleasantly surprised with what looks like a delay in O. Fingers crossed.
crumpet- any news yet from your test? I have my fingers crossed for you.
Dory- I am completely with you on the scans. We saw heartbeats etc. I would have also flipped out with the air pains as well, when I went into labor and lost my DS I never realized that those pains were preterm labor until it was too late. My thoughts are with you as you go in for your stitch. I think your philosophy of being thankful for each day at a time is really inspiring and beautiful. I have adopted a similar strategy trying to be thankful for what I have and not agonize about what I cannot control. I looked up "when the dream is shattered", but it looks like I am having a similar problem--there are no new copies available in the US and the older ones are CRAZY expensive. I don't head for Bermuda for 3.5 more weeks--Yikes! it seems like forever.
angelicdragon- what a long and hard journey you have had. Of course you are welcome here. This forum has too been a home for my heart, a place to come where people will listen no matter what. I am so sorry for the losses you have experienced in the past and am sending you a during this time you are grieving for your babies. I am part of another forum that is having an ongoing discussion about how families who have experienced loss never really feel complete. There is always something missing. I know that it probably isn't the most positive outlook, but I just want you to know you aren't alone. Like Dory, with my loss (16 weeks with no warning signs), I will not put much stock into scans for the future of my next pregnancy. I mean I think all of us here are small % of a %. it is pretty crazy. We also had a lot of tests done and it didn't show anything. I think that it is pretty common that you might not get a clear answer. I think it is a good idea to have testing done though---some say that answers can give you closure. Additionally with seeing the heartbeats and having normal development past 8 weeks that is a pretty good indication that there is likely nothing chromosomal wrong (according to one book I have anyways). Anyways, my heart goes out to you. May you find some moments of peace in the next few days.
my2boys- Welcome to our thread! I am so sorry for your losses. I agree with everything that you are doing and has been said, but am also wondering if you might suffer from low progesterone.....progesterone supplements have also been found to help people get thru the first trimester (until the placenta really starts making it). I don't think there is any major side effects, and there is an OTC cream. I think that virtually everyone who does IVF and IUI take progesterone supplements. It might be worth asking your doctor about it. Best of luck and keep us updated.
Charlie B- Do you think your cycle is getting back on track? I recently read a book saying that some women can actually spot when they ovulate, and thought of you.
Chez67- thanks for the congrats. I am sorry that these days are hurting so hard and am thinking about you as Wed. approaches.Anniversaries can be so hard. I am already dreading my original due date in April. A big HUG from over here. I wish I could say something to make it hurt less, but all I can do is provide a virtual shoulder to lean on. On another note- you are not alone: I have been avoiding having the exact same alcohol argument with my husband. I have brought it up a few times and gotten nowhere. I told him about the 2 drink thing....I have heard that 2 drinks is the amount that is acceptable for men to have (from the book making babies: a proven 3 month plan for maximum fertility). I feel the EXACT same way as you do--that it counteracts all the healthy stuff we are doing to get pregnant. At least I can provide you with a reference to show him (I showed it to my DH, but I dunno if it really helped).
Gigi1- Hi! Sounds like you are getting more energy. Hopefully you have kicked these bugs! Fingers crossed.
SusieQ- Oh my dear, life can be such a hard journey sometimes. You will get through this, probably not over it ever, but the worst of your grief will pass. I promise. It is hard, and I think all of us in here struggle daily, but I hope you can be comforted in knowing that you have a place to come vent and cry and be upset. Sometimes I feel like I just can't talk about how I am coping with all of this to anyone or when I get frustrated and angry or jealous of other women who are pregnant, but it is really nice to come here and talk about it. These women are really wonderful. I think sometimes avoidance of other pregnant moms is good, I know I certainly do some of that. I also find that when I talk about it or get it over with that helps me too. Most people are pretty sensitive and understanding (most but not all).
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during this time you are grieving for your babies. I am part of another forum that is having an ongoing discussion about how families who have experienced loss never really feel complete. There is always something missing. I know that it probably isn't the most positive outlook, but I just want you to know you aren't alone. Like Dory, with my loss (16 weeks with no warning signs), I will not put much stock into scans for the future of my next pregnancy. I mean I think all of us here are small % of a %. it is pretty crazy. We also had a lot of tests done and it didn't show anything. I think that it is pretty common that you might not get a clear answer. I think it is a good idea to have testing done though---some say that answers can give you closure. Additionally with seeing the heartbeats and having normal development past 8 weeks that is a pretty good indication that there is likely nothing chromosomal wrong (according to one book I have anyways). Anyways, my heart goes out to you. May you find some moments of peace in the next few days.
You will get through this, probably not over it ever, but the worst of your grief will pass. I promise. It is hard, and I think all of us in here struggle daily, but I hope you can be comforted in knowing that you have a place to come vent and cry and be upset. Sometimes I feel like I just can't talk about how I am coping with all of this to anyone or when I get frustrated and angry or jealous of other women who are pregnant, but it is really nice to come here and talk about it. These women are really wonderful. I think sometimes avoidance of other pregnant moms is good, I know I certainly do some of that. I also find that when I talk about it or get it over with that helps me too. Most people are pretty sensitive and understanding (most but not all).
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