Crumpet - first things first. YOU are not slow. You joined after I got my good news, and given the forum I am writing in I try and be very circumspect about what I write.
oohhh right i get ya, sorry!! didnt actually think of things like that!!!
Crumpet - how exciting that you are testing soon! !
thanks hun!!!
Hello everyone. I have been reading this forum for a couple of weeks now and thought it was time I said hello and to say congrats to Dory on her pregnancy.

It has been 6 weeks since I lost my DD at 22+4 weeks. She died about an hour after I gave brith to her - she was absolutely perfect in every way but just too small to survive. I can't believe it has only been 6 weeks it feels like such a long time ago. Obviously the hardest 6 weeks of my life! I am very lucky though to have an 18 month old DS who really has kept me going and has made me realise that life just has to go on (even when there are days when I just want to hide in bed)

My first thought after my DD died was that I was never getting pregnant again and then a day or two later all I could think about was TTC again. My OB suggested I wait 3 cycles before TTC again but was wondering what other's OB's had said. I need to wait 3 months anyway as I had to have a couple of blood transfusions and want to make sure I didn't pick up anything nasty before I start TTC again. Also, I am still spotting and was wondering how long others bleed??
oh hun im so so so sorry for the loss of ur DD.....
i lost my son 8 weeks ago and i iknow what you mean about it feeling like it was ages ago....
please take time for yourself when u need it....
my OB recommened we wait for 2 AF's to try again but thats because i had an infection and he said it would just make sure everything was cleared out, but at the same time he said there is no reason why i have to wait for the 2 AF's so we waited for one, and have been trying since then......
with the bleeding i bled for 2 weeks and then spotted for one... not sure if it makes a difference but i had to go to theatre for retained placenta so i apparently got a "good clean out" according to my OB!!



crumpet- I am counting down the days for you. I could never wait long, but my goal is to wait this cycle too (I wont be testing til April though), but that is always my goal. Keep us updated!
lol.... i was advised to wait 2 cycles but at the same time was told we didnt have to, so we decided to go for gold after one cycle instead.... i will do!!
Crumpet - I think you are very strong for not testing in April. But that does mean testing in May right?

AFM - still quite boyouant! Am doing a lot of quiet contemplation about my decision and lots of talks to DH. He's so sweet. He says he doesn't understand it all, and its such a tough decision to make, and he trusts me, that he will fully support whatever decision I make and adopt it as our decision. Wow. In a way its a bit like a burden, but mostly I am just so pleased that we are not on different pages with this.
ill be testing in about 10 days hun.... hopefully i wont have to be testing in april and may as well!!!

how is ur decision making going? u any closer to deciding what to do?

can i just say dory i find u a very inspirational person.....
you a full of great advice and are so very supportive of everyone.....
i know for me personally you have helped me a lot with ur magical words!!