Hi Jo. I am glad you have a friend that understands what you are going through. You will probably find that you bring each other strength over the next few months. I think it is hard to find positives when you lose a baby, and that is a hard thing to deal with. I was very negative the first weeks, and was angry that we lost out first and have no way of knowing if we will have another etc. I struggle to stay positive, but I find doing things that help me (counsellor from SIDS, naturopath etc) it gives me a lift. I have always tended to be a bit negative, but somehow I have turned that around a bit of late. I hope you manage to find some ways to help you sleep without the sleeping tablets.

My ob is lovely, but I am going to change to a new one in Feb. The new one is Mark Umstad who specialises in high risk pregnancies etc. I think my current ob will be far too laidback for me. Plus he has said that he doesn't think it is necessary to do any blood tests for clotting etc, and I really am not happy with that. Mark Umstad will do all the tests when I see him, so have decided not to push it with current ob.

I hope everyone is doing okay. This time of year really is tough.