that's the thing feeb the money for IVF they inherited from his Father passing just before they started it ... i get the feeling they think having gone through IVF twice and having to go through all that physically is harder than us NOT having a child at all.
Infact my DP bought it to my attention the amount of needles & blood tests & medication let alone surgery i have been through in 3years adds up to probably more the two rounds of IVF if i was gonna look at it that way. Oh god i sound dreadful in saying it but it's true.

and thank you so much Feeb for making me not feel guilty if i don't feel i can help at times as at the end of the day they haven't ever helped us so i shouldn't worry too much about that but at the same time i just want her to know i am here if she feels she does need to ask for help. I've even offered to babysit her DD heaps recently before babies are here so her & her DH can spend some time together for now.

Sadly i have never felt comfortable around her but her DH is just the most wonderful bloke and being in a town even if it is big it's hard to escape people here as i did more than a year ago try to end the friendship (if you can call it that) by not contacting her but she was persistant and she kept leaving me messages i could see she got upset at the thought of something ending between us so therefore i couldn't end it.