Thanks for all ur replies ladies. An old friend of mine had this said Doula and she said she couldnt have been more helpful. I have tried explaining everything to him about her role. I met with her one morning, and she went through some stuff. DP came home for lunch and she was still here so he got to meet her. I just feel I need someone there that will stay cool, calm, and collected.

BellyBelly- Id love to be able to come to Melbourne for the session but unfortunately things are a little tight here, and Id have to bring the kids and DP.

I will try and have a chat to him more about it tonight. Im starting to worry as time goes on, that I wont be able to handle this birth without the support of someone else as well as him.