Hun you need to do what is going to make you feel most comfortable. Honestly, after the birth I bet he won't even remember why he didnt want a doula. He'll have his little baby in his arms and he'll have seen how much of a support the doula was... go for it. Honestly. Don't do something you'll regret. I'm possibley just projecting my own disappointment here but I wanted a doula, Shel said no, long story short everything went to **** and I had an emerg. c/s. And sometimes I feel so angry and resentful at Shel because she was so sure she'd be ok, and then she wasn't and I keep thinking "if only you'd have let me have a doula..." and you REALLY don't want to be in that boat hun because its the stuff that can kill relationships.