Fire just wanted to say the more I look into AP the more I realise that it is about me as much as it is about the baby. Like so many have said - wish I'd known these things with my first. It is very hard to retrain yourself too and to accept the cries. I'm glad I wasn't ever able to do the controlled crying thing. I may not have done everything right, but a lot was on the right track, now to undo the damage I've done.