BG it sounds like you have a beautiful day planned. In the lead up to Coopie's first birthday I said that I just wanted to be alone and spend the day in bed crying. Then I changed my mind and wanted to do things in memory of Cooper. I invited the family over and cooked a roast and made candles and bought flowers and other things and I have to say it made the day such a memorable day. Although I would have preferred Coopie to be with us, I'm glad that I can look back on his first birthday and remember the things I did other than thinking I just spent the day in bed. Perhaps leave visiting your dad until the next day and use this day as your angels day. Do what you need to do on the day - big hugs