BG I'm sending you huge too. The day you have planned sounds beautiful. I'm sure your little angel will be with you too.
Anniversaries are really tough and I know what you mean about nobody else remembering. My dh doesn't even remember our angel babies dates or anything. He tells me its his way of "coping" and he thinks I should be the same I just can't forget as easy as that iykwim.
Anyway I just want you to know that we are all here for you and don't worry about your dads comments or anyone elses for that matter.
It really sucks that these date are all significant for other reasons too. My 1st angel was lost 1 day after my nan's b'day and 2 days before Christmas, so people never understand why I'm not happy at that time of year

Take Care BG and wrap yourself up nice and tight with your DH.
I wish you all the very best for your next FET too