BW, im so sorry for your loss and everything that you are going through now. Wow, i cant believe people at your work said that to you....especially your work contributing to your miscarriage and having a leave of absence!! Like wtf! That is such an unsupportive thing to say. I can understand the choc attack, i hope DH will be home for you soon. Im almost in tears for you. My work place hasnt been over supportive- ie as in gossipers etc.. but my boss has always said take all the time you want. Doing ivf is such a big part of our lives, i just cant believe someone would say that to you right now, if ever. God, what did you say to them? I think you need to talk to someone maybe at your work, or was it your boss that said that to you?? I hope you feel a little better soon. You are not worthless, never feel like that. mel