BW - i read your post when it first came up - and had to walk away from my computer as tears of anger were streaming down my face. i can't believe how insensitive your work place is being about this - i seriously can't fathom how it has gotten to this point that people are making these comments. it keeps running through my head that, if they know that work is stressful for you, why aren't they making changes to help you - why aren't they doing everything in their power to eliminate the stress in this environment? it's just disgusting behaviour from the people in management that firstly, your privacy has been breached by telling others of your situation, and secondly, that they are trying to get you to take time out to make life easier for them. If and when you choose to take a leave of ansence following your next transfer, it's something YOU and your husband need to decide upon without pressure from anyone else. and it needs to be a leave of absence on your terms, not theirs. the comments you've received are downright rude and hurtful and the people making them need to take a good long look at themselves

i wish there was something else i could say or do to make life easier for you at the moment BW - there is nothing i can say that will change what has happened - i just want to send you massive hugs hun - take care