with ds1, i asked a midwife to watch him while i had a quick shower, (the one who came across as the nicest and i felt comfortable with) df was there every other time, with ds1 & ds2. with dd, i left her sleeping in my room, there is a bathroom allocated to each room, my bed was right next to the door, id just half close the curtain to my bed, and have a quick one of a morning while she had a sleep, if i felt i needed one of a night id do the same as long as it wasnt visiting hours. once bub is here and safe you should be overcome with a type of euphoria (sp? not sure thats the right word?) that your fears will hopefuly be less of a issue.