I couldnot, would not and have not deferred those decisions to my partner or anyone else. Of course discussion, thoughts & fears are discussed - but in the end my body, birthing my child is my right & my rite...
...and I'm not suggesting that a woman should defer to anyone. Far from it. I just don't why some people in this thread are making (some) men out to be stupid door mats. Like I said, if the shoe was on the other foot we'd have a bunch of crazy militants calling for blood.