Blonde -please don't try to simplify my c section experience by saying that life doesn't always go to plan. Please don't suggest that I am looking at other people's births and thinking mine should have been the same or better. I share in the joy when mums have awesome birth experiences and I sympathise in their feelings, whatever they may be when the birth does not go how they had hoped and dreamed. Please don't suggest to me that because my child is safe in my arms then it doesn't a matter because I still carried and birthed a baby.
I haven't had my section yet - but for me, I will look at my scar and think, this was my bith, my way and I made the right decision based on what I wanted.
I would encourage people to not look at someone elses birth and think that theirs should have been the same or better. Yes we have a right to have our own birth, the way we would like it but life doesn't always go to plan...and we don't always get what we want, the important thing is to remember we carried and birthed a baby. They are here and safe in our arms. We are very lucky to have been given a chance to experience motherhood and the many things that come with it some within and some not within our control
When you say things like some things in life aren't in our control it makes me feel very sad. The birth of my baby should be something that I have control over. It's my baby and my body. Why should someone else assume control over that. It's an absolutely nightmarish situation to watch as all your control is stripped from you and you are bullied and crying all on your own. We don't always get what we want, that is true -but we should never ever get put in that situation.
I get that that is how you feel about it, but don't please suggest to me that that is how I should feel about it. It makes me feel even worse about myself when other people's comments imply that it's not really that bad.
I am grateful everyday for my chance at motherhood. I should be allowed my feelings regarding my c section without someone suggesting that I might be ungrateful that I am a mum and have the chance to a wonderful relationship with my child. I know very well how lucky I am to be a mum.
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