I know you probably meant well Blondie but this is a very emotive topic. I don't think that Lenny was attacking you but moreso talking about how your post made her feel. I think that's ok yanno? Especially given this is a section for those who have experienced c/s. Again I have to say I agree with Lenny in that what YOU feel isn't what someone else feels, or what I feel. And telling us that Life doesn't sometimes go how its planned often feels like "Just get over it you've got a healthy baby." It hurts. And it invalidates the disempowerment felt.