I hope you get the thrush sorted ASAP Bella. So not fun!
I need help!! I'm so confused and sad and stressed. More crap with my MW When we met this week we didn't talk about the whole issue I had with the way she told me about the hep A I had and we just had a really good appointment. I had known we would need to revisit it again to clear over the whole thing and ensure we had understood each other's point of view and we were communicating well but I figured there was time.
Anyway, so at the appointment I mentioned I had had two very tiny drops of bright blood (smaller than a millimetre). I hadn't had sex in a while but had just moved house and done a hard yoga class and my pelvis was very sore. Then when she was palpitating my tummy to feel baby I had some acute pain on the upper right side. She thought the pain could be digestive wind through my tummy but could also be an issue with an organ (like gall stones) or a contraction, though I didn't feel any signs of a contraction.
So last night she sent me a text to ask how the pain and bleeding was going. I told her I had one more teeny spot of blood the next day but nothing since and the pain seemed to digestive as it happened again after I ate another not quite ripe nectarine but I hadn't had it again. So she replied that if I wanted she could refer me for an ultrasound to check the placenta and if I was having early cervical dilation. I said I really don't think anything is wrong and I'm happy to wait and see if I have any more bleeding and asked "or is the three drops enough to be concerned?".
She replied with this: "It's always up to you to make the decisions that are right for you in your care I'm here as a consultant to you, to listen and provide clinical care and to give you information, and resources and the help support you to keep your pregnancy and birth normal and healthy. Bleeding now at this time in pregnancy can happen on occasion w lovemaking, but is not otherwise normal. It could be many things- many are not a problem, and some could be. I would always let you know if I see something that could be an issue, even if it ends up being just fine. That's why mothers have midwives and doctors adn why we do prenatal care- to keep things normal and healthy as possible and to spot things early when issues arise so we can correct issues early. An ultrasound is the tool used to help identify any issues when a mama has any bleeding in pregnancy. It is less invasive and gives us more information than a vaginal exam, which is the other test that's done to assess spotting or bleeding. That's why I shared that option with you, so you know what your options are and can make informed decisions about your care. I think waiting to see is just fine. If it happens again, or gets worse, or if there is any pain, please let me know right away- those are signs of problems. I'm here to help you and baby to be healthy and well. I do not benefit at all from tests or procedures- and I only recommend them when they are appropriate care"
Aside from the fact that it's a mini-essay it feels like a lecture and I REALLY don't appreciate the condescending tone telling me why women hire midwives. Am I over reacting? The rest of what she said is actually reasonable but I think she blew my question out of the water. She knows having an ultrasound is not a decision I take lightly as I don't even use a doppler so why would I run and have one without many markers for need? I was trying to assess if she had offered it for my peace of mind or if we were already at that point where it's needed. Waiting for more bleeding and/or pain makes MUCH more sense to me. To have one now is major overkill. I'm fine!!
I find it quite triggering, like a doctor trying to power trip me. Do I need to change MWs? It's getting so far along and I'm SO busy that stresses me out big time
Re: Homebirth General Discussion #20
When we met this week we didn't talk about the whole issue I had with the way she told me about the hep A I had and we just had a really good appointment. I had known we would need to revisit it again to clear over the whole thing and ensure we had understood each other's point of view and we were communicating well but I figured there was time.
I'm here as a consultant to you, to listen and provide clinical care and to give you information, and resources and the help support you to keep your pregnancy and birth normal and healthy. Bleeding now at this time in pregnancy can happen on occasion w lovemaking, but is not otherwise normal. It could be many things- many are not a problem, and some could be. I would always let you know if I see something that could be an issue, even if it ends up being just fine. That's why mothers have midwives and doctors adn why we do prenatal care- to keep things normal and healthy as possible and to spot things early when issues arise so we can correct issues early. An ultrasound is the tool used to help identify any issues when a mama has any bleeding in pregnancy. It is less invasive and gives us more information than a vaginal exam, which is the other test that's done to assess spotting or bleeding. That's why I shared that option with you, so you know what your options are and can make informed decisions about your care. I think waiting to see is just fine. If it happens again, or gets worse, or if there is any pain, please let me know right away- those are signs of problems. I'm here to help you and baby to be healthy and well. I do not benefit at all from tests or procedures- and I only recommend them when they are appropriate care"
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