I completely understand what you're saying Tegam and I appreciate it too. I agree with you that perhaps this is just a bad fit- I keep having issues! Maybe I'm trying to fit a square peg into a round hole? The patronising comment and the way that that triggers stress for me is not a good sign at all. I am most concerned about that. The thing is she worked for years as a women's abuse counsellor so surely she'll understand when I talk about her triggering my stress and want to change. I think I need to just try and have the conversation.

I haven't moved all that far from my old place so most my MW options are the same. Which pretty much leaves the other MWs in the same practice (could be awkward?), another practice that seems very clinical and I'm not interested in or another MW I have been in contact with before. I'm tossing up finding out if she's still available... she ended up not wanting to do my prenatal appointments at home because I was too far but now I live right near her. She very experienced and could be a good fit but some of her initial paperwork was a bit off putting. I'm not sure. At least we sorted out my eldest son's school placement today and that is another thing ticked off so I do have more mental space to just focus on the MW for now.