Meow: I think every ones else advice is sound and helpful. I on the other hand may not be. I feel that you just haven't messed with this women, you don't feel like she is on this journey with you and that you are having to manage your pregnancy and her rather than it being a team. Mentioning that your feel like she is taking the Dr role is something to think more about... Is that the care you want? Are there other MWs in your new area? Can you shop around some more? I'm not a personal touchy freely person. I have never had a MW I loved or a friend that I wanted at the birth. I see everyone at my births as tools to get me the birth I want. Dr equal intervention, Homebirth equals natural birth, free birth was intense I don't love this MW I have this time BUT. I feel heard and supported and on the same path. I don't need a life long friend, I need someone here incase the %#^* hits the fan but we all need something different from our births. Prioritise what YOU need from your birth and support people. Don't comprise! Hugs. I'm sorry about your stress levels at the moment