Hi waiting1
Welcome to BB. As Rach81 said, everyone here gives each other a great deal of support, advice and empathy. It's a great place to meet people who are in the same situation (or as similar as you get) and understand as closely as possible how you are feeling. There should be so other ladies going through the TWW who'll be around this thread atm.
I'm also with MIVF and although I'm not with Dr McBain I have heard he is very good. I'm in the same boat as you, like Rach also - I'm fine, but DH has 94% abnormal forms that required ICSI (at the last minute) on our first cycle. I am currently going through my second cycle back to back off the BFN of our first one. We've been TTC since Feb 07 and our first fresh cycle was in November too. If this current fresh cycle is unsuccessful, we will have one more chance at a FET before we are due to move overseas permanently.
Were you given any information during your first ICSI cycle about each and every embryo you had before your transfer, and the embryos you have had transfered? If not, maybe you can give the clinic a call an ask to speak to a nurse in your team and explain to them that you want to know the grade of all your embryos when they were put into freeze, or transfered. I think it's important to have this information in your mind as it stops you from second guessing what your embryos are like and whether they are ok. 7 is a great number to have frozen from one cycle - congratulations on that!
I can tell you some information that may be useful as I asked questions of my FS at MIVF last appointment after my BFN and received good information. The majority of MIVF's pregnancies are achieved on FETs, in fact over 50% of the births resulting from IVF in Victoria in any one year are from MIVF's FETs alone. This in part has to do with their freezing and thawing technique, which I've been advised is very good because of the quality of their embryologists. I found this information quite encouraging at my appointment the day after my BFN. My FS said it is just a matter of time, and waiting to have the right embryo implanted - unfortunately no one can say which embryo it will be, but the fact that MIVF do less than 50% of the egg collection procedures in Victoria, but still end up with over 50% of all births from just their FETs certainly gives me hope that it will happen sooner rather than later.
So from the point of view of FETs, you are in good hands with MIVF. I know that it is disillusioning and disheartening to go through another BFN, but I'd like to put out there for you that your BFN isn't confirmed until you have a blood test - women have been known to have AF during the first part of pregnancy, and it's not uncommon for it to take time for HCG levels to develop in women who should be showing up on HPTs at 14dpo. I certainly am not trying to give you false hope, but just that there are circumstances that happen quite regularly that defy the usual run of events.
I'm sorry that you're feeling so disheartened by it at the moment - you are entitled to grieve for the cycles that don't work as we really are so close when we already have an embryo there inside us. Perhaps you can talk to your clinic about your embryos and the statistics I've given you if it helps, and talk to all the lovely ladies and gent here on BB - they're all so understanding and have been through it too. Hopefully there will be some other people who are with MIVF who know other stats.
I wish you a beautiful new year with the right embryo if this cycle is bust, and we are here to support you as much as you need.
Miss C :hugs:
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