I am keeping my eye's shut, just in case you hit me with a sledge hammer! ... I think ppl ask because they are interested and want you to know that they are thinking of you and your situation. I don't know if you have kept it secret, but if not, you surley knew that ppl would be asking? Anyway that is what I did when friends of ours was IVF. Just to let them know that we are thinking of them and hoping with them, I would call her just to know how she is doing. And honest - it was something new and interesting.
And about the lady that gave you the "advice", I am sure she just wanted to help, maybe she really thought that you did not know!?
I don't know what you are going through, and I have no right to tell you to take it easy. But hun, I don't think that they do it on purpose, although it feels like that to you. And they are pulling you aside and not chatting at top voice in a room full of ppl, sparing your dignity - ok not really And I would think that one can get sick of the questions when you have been down your road. You have every right to get sick off it!!
Sorry, I don't want to upset you more, I just thought that you should know that asking silly & private questions is what most ppl would do.
I do hope you feel better soon, because you are having one hell of a silly time lately!!
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