So what do you say to a friend at work? Do you send a note and act like you don't know what is going on? Do you just ignore and once she is pg, THEN you want to join the "journey"? I don't want to be mean - now I just plain curious.
i think that's the point Nadine - it's not up to a work colleague to be a part of the "journey" - they wouldn't expect to be invited into my bedroom to know how we're going getting pregnant on a natural conception cycle, so why should they need to know with the IVF/AC?

if they want to know how i'm doing as a person - then ask how I'm doing - and be interested in me as an individual - obviously if there is no pregnancy announcement things aren't going that great!

i'm a person - not a walking science project (no matter how i might feel that was sometimes) - so treat me as a human and respect me and my privacy the same as you'd expect in return - and when i'm ready to share some fantastic news, i will!