I am keeping my eye's shut, just in case you hit me with a sledge hammer! ... I think ppl ask because they are interested and want you to know that they are thinking of you and your situation. I don't know if you have kept it secret, but if not, you surley knew that ppl would be asking? Anyway that is what I did when friends of ours was IVF. Just to let them know that we are thinking of them and hoping with them, I would call her just to know how she is doing. And honest - it was something new and interesting.

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i think this is something we all have to deal with everyday - yes, there is a level genuine concern with some people - but it's mostly pure curiosity with others. i don't think there is a single problem with someone asking WHAT the process is, but there is a massive invasion of privacy when someone asks where you're up to in that process - particularly when that person is an acquaintance that has just heard you're doing ivf.

i have close friends who know where i'm at with cycling - not a single drama with them knowing because they are my number one support when i'm at work and having issues - but when someone who happens to work at the same place as me and can barely have a conversation to me day by day decides to ask where i'm at with things - that's just not on! unfortunately for me, and i think it's similar for BW - i've had to make people aware of what is happening for work flexibility reasons - and in most larger workplaces, things become semi-public knowledge even when you don't want them to - but having said that, there is no way i would go up to someone and ask them the type of questions we're being faced with everyday

i choose to share the ups and downs of this journey with the community on BB - primarily because, although i've made some fabulous friends here, i'm mostly anonymous here - no one truly knows me, and what is said here stays here - i don't have to deal with it every day when i'm trying to go about my life and my job - i don't choose to share these aspects at work, and i should be shown enough respect by my colleagues to not broach the subject unless i am the one that chooses to discuss it

and no, i won't swing the proverbial sledge hammer (well, not at you this time anyway) - but i've come damn close at times with others - respect is something that is deserved, and whether someone is taking us aside to whisper a question, or speaking to us in a crowded public place, they're taking away our right to privacy and disrespecting us as individuals - and that just isn't right (or fair) is it?