I have never been through what you are going through and could only imagine how hard it would be but common sense tells me how emotionally difficult and just a roller coaster ride it would be.

Maybe some people dont have conversation skills either and think that is what you are going through so that is what they bring up. Just a simple "how are you going" turns into more of a personal nosey question.

Its easy after the fact thinking of what you should have said but in the moment its a bit hard as you are probably gob smacked. Maybe you should think of a couple of things to say next time this happens to you so you have it stuck in your mind, doesn't have to be rude or blunt if you don't want just politely tell them its personal and you don't feel comfortable discussing it at work.

I am glad you have left this thread here as i agree that if it makes people see how it makes you feel then maybe they will think twice.

Even though i wouldn't say something like that to someone thanks for the insight.