Like I said before, I have NO idea what you are going through with IVF. And I think BW is right - this is a great thread, because it let ppl like me know what NOT to say to couples that are having trouble conciving. This was the first couple in our circle of friends that needed IVF and they were open about it. Granted she got pg first IVF. Unlike my BIL that are also going through this, but does not talk about it. I have so wanted to ask my SIL how she is doing and if they are coping, but just could not. I don't think she wants us to know, so I can't be there for her.
I never thought that asking: how are the IVF going, could be taken like I don't respect someone's privacy. I think I am being naive and thinking that everyone who asks something like that truely are concerned and just wants to let you know that you are there to support, if needed. I REALLY have not thought that it could just be done to be mean. I mean I don't walk up to anyone in the street and ask that type of question.
So what do you say to a friend at work? Do you send a note and act like you don't know what is going on? Do you just ignore and once she is pg, THEN you want to join the "journey"? I don't want to be mean - now I just plain curious.
I was having a glass of wine "awww so you didn't get pregnant this cycle?"
Ps. Sarah - Saying something like THAT is plain rude and insensitive