Oh Ryn,
I can so relate! Heres my story if it helps. DH has never had an interest in getting a "real" job. The way he sees it is that I worked hard to gain my position & qualafications (sp?) to be a Veterinary Nurse, I love my Job & he seems to think I don't cope with out actually working. B4 we had kids I didn't care what he did as far as work went & to be honest he did nothing in the 6 years we were together b4 falling pg. He did have some other issues that held him back but thats another story. In that time it didn't bother me. As long as the bills got paid & he put in his fair share of money (centerlink). We shared all the house hold duites. Took turns at cooking/dishes etc.
Once I fell pg I cracked down on him about needing to find work. He didn't need any encouragment as he knew as well as I did that he needed to work in order to support our new family. He got a crap job working nights. I did work after I had Evan & so did he. 2nd baby comes round & he has found a new more reliable job (as far as hours go) working on a mushroom farm. Again he hated it. But the pay was better & he was working days, would often be home by 3pm & the shifts were consitant. I wasn't as keen to go back to work after I had Glenn (hell I wasn't keen with Evan either but was offer the job & it worked in well so...). I did my best to work from home as much as I could taking care of the accounts & things like that. Vet nursing isn't really a work form home type of job! Anyway I didn't mind chasing bad debtors but after a while my boss was becoming more & more demanding of my time & less understanding of the time I had to offer. At this stage DH was totally over working on the Mushroom farm but I had decided that I couldn't keep working any longer. I told him that it was really strressing me out feeling as though I had a standard to meet because he seemed to think I "had" to work in order to be sain. I also felt as though he was pressuring me to return to work so that he could quit & be a SAHD. I wouldn't mind that IF I was earning more money then him & actually still enjoyed my job enough to ba away from my children. Amazingly he understood. I said I would take over his share of the cooking/cleaning etc & be a proper SAHM & house wife. This worked well for a while & eventually work asked me to cover some shifts again. I was happy to do this as it was just now & then & worked in with DH's days off.
Now at the age of 33 DH has found a job that he wants to do & thinks he will enjoy. So he quit his job & took on full time study to be come a librarian. Who was I to stand in his way? It was really hard for a while there as me only working 1 to 2 days a week & him only on Austudy payment was a major strain on our budget. We managed though as we have always lived on a below LOW income. But now he has till July next year of Full time study left but has also managed to get a position with in the Uni of Western Sydney Librarys doing temp work. So at the moment he works an average of 7 to 14 hours a week @ $26 an hour plus time and half if he works a saturday which he often does. So it is finally paying off.

Now I have just realised my story doesn't help you one little bit!! LOL Sorry.
But I think you need to be open with your DH & let him know how stressed you are feeling & that he needs to cut you a bit of slack!
Oh on the cooking Dinner thing, I am soooooo slack at cooking dinner, I never cook 2 nights in a row. But I have found that by peeling & cutting all the veggies (not potato's though, they go yuk) and keeping them in snap lock bags cooking dinner is so much easier. I just stick a pot of water on the stove & chuck in what veggies I want that night & its done (we don't eat meat). I find my biggest drawback when it comes to cooking dinner is the preparation time. But when I am the mood I cut everything up that I have in the fridge (I have found it tends to stay fresher as well once cut & in the snap lock bags) that I don't find it such a task to actually go start on dinner.

Well I hope my rambleing has helped you in some way...