Oh my god Ryn!!your DH sounds like a clone of mine!!!i know how you feel..but the prob is that it doesn't get easier when the baby comes..even though you are home all day its prob at least a couple of months before the baby is any sort of pattern to allow you time to scratch yourself, let alone do housework!!when owen was sleeping the first few mths all i could manage was to drag myself to bed too..you really do need it!! i thought that my DH would change when owen was born, and he actually did for about a week or 2..and then he just went back to normal..for instance: we're moving house tomorrow and on the weekend..i have done every bit of packing so far, plus all he had to do(and he keeps talking about it)is tidy the yard and mow the lawn and pack up all his computer junk in the study..he's come home every night and talked about it and then made a comment about showing me how to start the mower!!!not a chance!!!and he said this morning that he'd do it all tonight(inc painting the roof where the projector was mounted!!yea right!!)..
sorry i've just had a big vent too..just wanted to let you know that i know exactly where you're coming from and if you ever want to talk/vent wwe can bounce ideas off each other!!hope things get better soon!!