Tubal Reversals #15

**kiya** · June 24th, 2008, 08:16 PM

it has been a horrible 24 hrs i can assure you.....dh has been great and keeps giving me huggles......i'm so glad my 17 son isn;t here, because he would go nuts.....what makes it even harder is that we want to start IVF hopefully in the next month or so, but with this happening it feels like it will have to go on the back burner again......i'm sick of waiting to have my new bubba's......dh has said that we are goign to go see our lawyer tomorrow......we have seen pictures of this child and it has nothing of dh at all......our kids though have him all through them.....my 14 ds is a spitting image of him......i just want it all to end.....kiya

**karend** · June 24th, 2008, 08:49 PM

Try and keep your chin up darl....

that everything sorts itself out soon...Let the lawyer deal with it...

By the way...my friend isnt just my friend he is my hubby....so i do in a way understand what you are going through....we had just decided to go and have the reversal done when i found out.....still going through with the reversal..... despite the rough patches, for us this PROBLEM has only made us stronger.....

PM me if you want to chat....anytime im usually on line

Take it easy

**dearmum** · June 24th, 2008, 10:02 PM

So sorry to hear about that B***H giving you troubles,dont let her get her way.She must be doing this to make you guys argue,dont give her the satisfaction.What Karend said is so true once you get a lawyer involve she will go away.Gosh this is the last thing you need.

**Mumof8** · June 24th, 2008, 11:16 PM

Wow thats pretty heavy Kiya you poor thing. What DNA was done the first time round???
I too had a DNA test done on my son as his father didnt believe me and it was just a mouth one that you can do at home and it cost $500 and it came back 99.99999999% that he was the father. I could not use it for legal reason or to claim child support as there was no 3rd party to witness it, that one was $1000. Cant your DH just sign away his parental right for her because he doesnt want anything to do with her???
Im pretty sure that would send a message loud and clear and would cut her up. My friends ex signed away all his rights to his son and she was very very angry and upset.
Get yourself a new email account so you dont have to get anymore emails from her.
Stand your ground and dont let her get in the way of your plans or your family. If you let her get to you then she wins. I think even if you get a laywer to send her a letter telling her your DH feeling and to stay away or court action will be taken then she may back right off.

**kiya** · June 25th, 2008, 08:05 AM

Emm he had only the paternity test done.....CSA dont accept paternity anymore because they are in accurate.....so many fathers have been forced to pay child support for children based on a test that is looking for certain elements in blood and a blood group......My eldest son knows of this child, but is not happy, not at hubby, but the other bird, because she tricked him into having a baby.....we have changed our number so many times, but she sucks up to our friends back in Brisbane, saying how we gave her our number to contact us, and she has lost it some stupid sotry and them not knowing any better gives it to her.....it is a never ending circle......all we want is to extend on our family by having another baby of our own, and now this has set us back.....i hate all the set backs.....kiya

**kiya** · June 25th, 2008, 12:36 PM

wow today has been filled with a lot of emotions and a lot of tears......not only are we still going to go ahead with the IVF, but dh has asked me to renew our wedding vows to prove how much i really does love me.....it is exciting now.....hopefully a new baby/babies soon and now a new wedding, especially since my first one was absolutely aweful and it rained and my reception was held in my parents shed with frozen finger food for the guests....so now it we can have the fun-filled party we should of had.....we have decided to have a little ceremony for our renewal then instead of a reception thingo we are goign to have a big party instead....kiya