Tubal Reversals #15

[dearmum]

Hi Mrs M, Thats good to hear you received all the paper work,its interesting isnt it,it also makes things feel real.I hope you can start soon.

Hi Momof6, Oh thats so cute,im hoping my kids will help out like that too.Yeh babies grow up so quick its nice if they stayed baby for longer.

Hi Ladies, I hope everyone had a good day today.

Ok about me again,i had such a bad day today i went off my head at my son for not having a job and i called him a bum this pregnancy my hormones are all over the place,iv been mad and snapping at little things and crying later on.Oh and what makes it worst is when my kids say mum your just upset coz your pregnant hmm i feel like killing them when they say that.I dont remember being like this with my other kids,or maybe that time it was my hubby that coped it.My hubby smart this time he stays away but the kids cop it.its really sad.I dont get m/s but i wish i could swap it with these hormones.







Me 36 DH 54
DS19,DD17,DS16,DD11
Bubs due 10th Feb

[kiya]

dearmum......i can relate to the older kids and them not doing anything.....my 17ds is exactly the same and would prefer to stay at home and be in front of his computer.....he moved out of home on the weekend back to the city so he can be a city boy again.....i'm a little sad, but at the same time my house is peaceful again......yes preg hormones can take over, but they will settle down soon.....cheers kiya

[dearmum]

Hi Kiya, Yeh my son is 19 this yr and he has only held down a few jobs as he gets fired,i get so frustrated as he has no motivation to get out there and work hard,instead he takes life easy he has parents that feed him and a roof over his head and his friends shout him drinks ect so he dosnt need a jobhe cant even be bothered to claim dole.What made me so mad yesterday was i asked him to bring out the rubbish and he turned around and told me why dont you do it.Can you imagine how that made me feel.
Well he didnt end up taking out the rubbish,he didnt even come home last night.I think i need to tell him to move out he is old enough to defend for himself now what do you think?

[kiya]

boy can i so totally relate......my son does get the dole, and he found it so much easier to sit around and do nothing because he knew that every 2 weeks he would get money for nothing......he treated me like i was the worst thing on this earth, but he and dh were best buds.....ever since he physically threw dh to the ground by his throat and we had to get the police, they have become best buds, but me, gees i'm the worst ever..... i couldn;t even walk past his room without him yelling at me......so now i am glad he has gone......my house is so much happier for it....my other kids are being kids again and aren't always on their guards......cheers kiya

[kiya]

ladies......i'm asking for some advice......dh ex after some many years has all of a sudden decided she would start harassing us....dh & i have been together since our late teens, but we seperated for a short time during my preg with my eldest son and after he was born....during that time this girl, sucked him and lied to him about being on the pill etc.....they were together for only 5 weeks, but during that time she did so much damage, to much to go into detail with......she has now decided that dh has to make contact with this daughter......we spoke with CSA and they are now requesting a DNA because they have gone through her file and found some discrepancies......he only had a paternity and tht is no longer acceptable because even though it says 90+ % accuracy it is actually inaccurate.......she keeps emailing me to force dh to make contact with the daughter.....like he says he is paying, that is bad enough, but he doesn;t want to meet the girl.....the ex is now saying that she will go and wait outside my kids school so she can froce my kdis to meet this girl.....what should i do ???.....i'm in massiv tears at the moment.....kiya

[karend]

Kiya...

Firstly to you and your family.


My advice would be talk to your lawyer have them write a letter asking that all correspondence regarding the child be done through the lawyers office (this way YOU aren't being harrassed by this woman) and if the funds are available get another test done... I assume that you and your hubby have spoken at great lengths over this and the decision that he would not be involved in the other child's life was a joint one....SHE can not force YOUR children to meet her child....If YOU feel threatened by this woman seek an AVO...Sorry if im rambling i have a million thoughts going through my head at the minute.

This is the advice i gave a friend who is in a similar situation....They only dtd once.... but 3 days after the girl claimed she was pregnant(sounds suss, i know)..... Once the lawyer got involved my friend hasnt heard from her nor has the lawyer.


Hope things all settle down for you soon....And please dont waste tears on this woman...she isnt worth it.

[kiya]

Thanks Karend........that helped......this woman is nuts, literally......prime example.....we got married in oct 1993......a week before we got married she was calling saying she had another child to dh, a son and that it was born early and was in the NICU.....so i said fine give me all the details then and we will see it.....within 2 mins of saying it was in the NICU, she said we can't see it because it had passed away........then several months later we got a phoen call from CSA telling us that she tried to claim this child......they declined it due to the fact that she could not #1 provide a birth certificate and #2 she couldn't provide dna proof that dh was the father......then the guy at CSA then asked is it true that i was his 2nd wife......i nearly died.....he was never married to her and was only with her for a few weeks and then she suckered himin with this kid......we have had an AVO on her before, but because we no longer live in the city and she is now married.....go figure, she still wants to be a b$tch......it no longer holds.......kiya