boy can i so totally relate......my son does get the dole, and he found it so much easier to sit around and do nothing because he knew that every 2 weeks he would get money for nothing......he treated me like i was the worst thing on this earth, but he and dh were best buds.....ever since he physically threw dh to the ground by his throat and we had to get the police, they have become best buds, but me, gees i'm the worst ever..... i couldn;t even walk past his room without him yelling at me......so now i am glad he has gone......my house is so much happier for it....my other kids are being kids again and aren't always on their guards......cheers kiya