Oh Dan I can't imagine how hurt you must be, especially seeing as we know what a gorgeous woman you are who wanted to cause your sister as little pain as possible hun. The other girls have given you loads of advice hun and I don't really have any other than to suggest talking to your sister? I am a talker so I don't know if this is way off the mark and maybe not even possible at this point in the the grieving process. As for your parents, I would be point blank telling your mum how hurt you are, how you hope they will be a part of your kids lives and deal as graciously as you have been. Wish I could wrap you up in a big real ...Any trips for Melbs planned soon? You know where I live Thinking of you darls. xoxox