Pukeko and Lucy - thank you so much for your replies. I really feel like I need to talk about it with people that really understand, so it does help. It makes me start crying every time again but that is normal I guess. It's so much better talking to people who have gone through it, most other people don't know what to say.

Pukeko - do they usually do tests as part of the d&c? Or do I have to ask for these? If it can provide any reasoning, it would be some consolation at least.

I am so sorry that both of you have been through this as well.

Lucy - you give me such great hope because you now have such a beautiful girl. I hope we can be that lucky soon.