Like everyone else, I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. I also know from experience the heartache you feel. It is interesting that your mum doesn't know of this happening to anyone else, but rest assured, it happens to too many of us. After my first miscarriage, I suddenly 'found' all these women that had been through the same thing. In fact, I think that everyone I spokje to had ether been through it themselve, or at least knoew a sister, mother, wife, SIL etc that had been through it. It is very common. Too common.
I'm glad that you asked for some testing to be done. I have miscarried 6 times now and in the first 2, because they were done in our country town hospital, they didn't bother sending the "products of conception" away for genetic testing. But in my most recent miscarriage (about 2 months ago) my OB (Nick Lolatgis) did get the tissue tested. I have an appointment to see him on the 16th to discuss the results.
Nothing can prepare you for what you have just been through either. Until it happened to me, I always thought that going for an ultrasound would be the most exciting bit - seeing the baby for the first time. It's like a kick in the guts when you hear the fateful words of the sonographer "I'm sorry...."
Hearing your story was just like reliving it again, and you will find so much support from all of us here. It was only just prior to my last m/c that I found this site, and I wish that I had the support from all the girls for all the other times I miscarried or had failed IVF.
Cry all you like and don't feel "silly" or wrong for doing so. It is your body's and mind's way of healing.
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