Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #1

[nicjay]

Nicambhar - oh pooh to your doctor, I don't see that it's any ones else's business how many children you want! At least I have been lucky on that front - my ob has been excellent through this - I think he was really horrified when he did the us and found no heartbeat He has never suggested that we should think about giving up. I must admit its been getting up my nose a bit this week when people say oh you have one child you should be happy about that. Don't get me wrong I do know that, but I feel like saying thanks a lot (not!!), I'll decide how many kids are enough for me for myself! I've just had so many dumb things said to me this week - mostly by family - they really just don't understand because they haven't had it happen to them.

Thats great that your bloods are normal - I've got to wait 3 and a bit weeks to ask my ob what more I can have done in the way of blood tests and other investigations. Can't help much on the TTC front either, sorry - I have to wait it out for this cycle and start again next. I tried Vitex for a couple of cycles and found that I O'ed early using it, so maybe that's whats happening to you too? I stopped taking it the month before I started on Clomid. I'm using Clomid to lengthen my short cycle, especially my LP, which is only 10 days. At least I have hope that we have already conceived using it, so no reason it shouldn't happen again. Obviously my main worry in another pregnancy will be miscarrying

Sheree - I'm so sorry for your losses I too would have been your belly buddy I think, but I was too scared I would miscarry and was waiting to introduce myself in the Belly Buddy thread until after 12 weeks. How prophetic was that It is hard seeing other pregnant women isn't it? I just look at them now and cry to myself - it is just not fair! Why did this have to happen to me? At least I do have my DD as a comfort - she has been cuddling me and saying "Mummy's sad". I'm just trying to hang on to the thought that there must have been something wrong too - I just refuse to believe that this can possibly happen to me again!

Maz - thank you so much for your lovely post...

[shereejoy]

I agree with Susannah that Vitex must have made me ovulate early too, maybe it wasn't cd16 as I usually am. The reason why i know is because I left on cd11 to go away without Wade and we dtd that morning only. So it all kinda makes sense now Susannah said that.

Susannah - Ok the plan is we be belly buddies again ok! I am also sick of the comments atleast you have Lachlan blah blah blah, atleast you can fall pregnant blah blah blah - it will happen blah blah blah. I find all these comments so disrespectful to my feeling and obviously people that have no idea including my family! I wish they would say nothing at all!!!!!! I def agree there was something wrong with our angels, but it's still not fair hey? And I hear ya on wondering why it happened to us, these things don't happen to people like you and I. Don't know if I am making sense.

Hope everyone is having an ok day.

[Nicambhar]

megsmum - yes it has been the same for me this week - people saying the stupidest things I have ever heard. Even my own mum has let me down, she said "oooha, I didn't think you were trying anymore. Oh well, it weren't meant to be", if I hear that one more time I reckon I will choke the person. Gotta love the comment from the Dr about giving up though, when he has pictures of all 5 of his kids on the wall.

Sheree - The doctor told me to get on Elevit and also Ostelin 1000. I know that he can't really do much for me, but man was I pi$$ed, I just want answers, and I just want to be rid of the fear of falling pg. I just think I am a little bit grumpy today. I have had a bit of a sleep this afternoon.

I really appreciate you ladies being here, I think that DP has had enough mc, pg and TTC talk for this lifetime...

[shereejoy]

What is ostelin.

I am on Elevit too, I swear by Elevit. Some people feel sick from it, but i haven't had a problem.