Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #1

**dantri** · August 2nd, 2011, 11:55 AM

Oh I didn't realize this thread existed. I feel as though I don't belong anywhere at the moment. I'm almost ready to start looking forward from my missed mc last week but can't TTC yet until my first cycle and of course its too painful to be in my belly buddies group. I told my friend about the pregnancy and miscarriage yesterday. She was the first person outside of my immediate family. She was really good expect is a few years younger, not in a relationship and nowhere near ready to have kids so ah just doesn't get it. Not her fault but it was frustrating you know. She kept saying, you'll get pregnant again, it will happen. And I know that but it hurts so much that i was pregnant and now I'm not and my longing to be pregnant again hurts physically. I have a knot in my stomach that won't go away yet I feel empty.

I was going to see another friend, while not as close, is very open and has had a miscarriage.l herself. She also has 3 kids.

I woke up this morning though feeling like crap. I feel that overwhelming sense of despair again. So glad DH hasn't gone back to work yet.

Sorry to be doom and gloom. It's just so hard talking to people irl about this that are as supportive and understanding as you guys.

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**LuluHB** · August 2nd, 2011, 12:07 PM

SOrry you're having a bad day today Dantri. Its all just crap isn't it - just when you think you're starting to get on top of it something else happens and you feel like you're back to where you started. If its any consolation, it does get easier with time.

I've just found out my SIL is pregnant so feeling pretty sorry for myself too. We would have been due about the same time so its especially hard. Have an IL family function on Sunday and just don't know that I can face it, especially without DH.

**Diamond Girl** · August 2nd, 2011, 03:34 PM

Dantri, I still have more bad days than good, but I know the good days will outnumber the bad someday. Hopefully it will happen sooner rather than later for you.

Pac - Hugs to you too

Lulu - I hope you are able to get through Sunday ok. Hugs.

Telly - I hope you are doing ok.

AFM - Still waiting for AF to arrive.

**toomanyshoes** · August 2nd, 2011, 03:45 PM

Hope it's ok if I pop in here.

Have just found out we can't TTC for at least the next 6 months and I just don't feel I "fit" anywhere else at the moment.

I have so much trouble keeping up with these on going threads, I seem to fall off the bandwagon because I feel silly complaining about my situation when others have gone through so much worse but I will try to keep up.

I'm really not coping with all the pregnancy announcements and belly photos on facebook at the moment.

We're getting close to clocking over to our 5th year of TTC #3, I'm starting to kick myself for not pushing harder to find out why my m/c's happened and didn't bother with follow up appointments.

I'm also certain that within the next few months we can expect a pregnancy announcement from my SIL (the one I can't stand). Really don't know how I'll cope with that.

Dantri - I hope you're feeling better soon

lulu - Anyway you can get out of Sunday? If not, hope it goes as smoothly as possible.

Diamond Girl - hope AF is here soon.

**tellytubby** · August 2nd, 2011, 09:07 PM

Hi beautiful ladies

Sorry I hadn't posted for a while, didn't get a notification until the latest post.

PAC, that is so beautiful that you were "blessed". What a humbling feeling, knowing that message is in the universe, you will go on to have a healthy pregnancy! I love that.

Dantri ( hope I got the name right I'm on my phone). Welcome to the group

I'm so sorry for your loss x

Lulu, I know how hard it is hearing those pregnancy announcements.. Dies your sil know that you were also expecting? X

Too many shoes - sorry to read it is taking so long to get a beautiful sticky babe. Do you know any reasons why at all? Did you have any troubles with your eldest two? When you read your sil's announcement, try to keep your chin up.. Your a gorgeous woman x

Diamond, sorry to hear you're still having more bad days than good

hope time heals your heart. x

Afm- first period since my d&c. Looking forward to successfully creating a beautiful, healthy, sticky bubba. Can not believe we will be a family if five next year. Optimism. It will happen! And will for each if you also! X

**tellytubby** · August 2nd, 2011, 09:12 PM

Too many shoes... Are you the member with high thyroid levels?? I had a similar experience. Please fill me in on your experience?

I had a high level too, miscarried. Am planning on seeing my gp to ask about them before ttc again. My level was just slightly high, 3.4 if I remember correctly..

**toomanyshoes** · August 3rd, 2011, 08:50 AM

Yep thats me tellytubby, only found out a few weeks ago. My appointment with the specialist was meant to be on Monday this week but I chickened out at the last minute. It's now the 18th.

I'll look for my test results are let you know.

The only reasons I've been giving for my m/c's are "maybe this and maybe that" and of course my weight always seems to be the issue even though I conceived our eldest two pretty much fuss free. My pregnancies had a few chic ups but nothing too major. During my 2nd m/c which was after having our daughter they found a small fibroid in the lining/wall of my uterus and again I was giving the "it may or may not be the problem" speech. After my 3rd m/c and being treated like it didn't matter because of my weight I've seen Dr's less and less for help because I'm sick of being told the same thing.

I'm hoping the thyroid problem will be all the answers we're looking for but I'm so petrified my expectation are too high and if I don't get pregnant quickly it's going to be very heart breaking.

**Diamond Girl** · August 5th, 2011, 07:45 PM

TTS - Im sorry its taken so long to TTC. We have been trying for over a year and it feels like forever. I cant imagine what 5 years feels like. I hope you get some answers at your appointment.

AFM - I had a very, very hard day yesterday. It was one year to the day that I lost my first Angel. August is such a terrible month for me this year. On a happier note, I awoke to my first AF since my D&C! Yay!

**Freya** · August 5th, 2011, 08:01 PM

Im around Telly, just busy trying to stay sane while Dh is overseas and Uni has started so Im trying to squish in study and assignment time of a night when I finally get the kids to bed.

TMS, who did you see for your testing?

For whoever asked about thyroid levels, mine were tested as part of my m/c panel and they came back borderline. My specialist said he didnt think they were an issue to focus on BUT that they should def be monitored along with bHCG when I get pregnant, and throughout the pregnancy.

Hmm my cycles have gone whacky again. Im now 2 days late (and Dh isnt here so its definately not pregnancy related!). Last cycle I was 3 days early, and had spotting throughout. Honestly as if I dont have enough to worry about without cycle issues arising.

**tellytubby** · August 19th, 2011, 05:52 PM

Hi ladies

PAC any success Hun?

Toomanyshoes, what happening with you lately? I've got an appointment with my ob in sept to discuss my thyroid levels, don't want to really ttc until then

Freya when is your hubby home? Are your cycles back on track yet?

Ho hum. Everyone around me is either pregnant or with a newborn. My heart is aching. X

**tellytubby** · September 10th, 2011, 09:07 PM

Omg diamond!!!!! Your news has put a huge smile on my face! Gosh girls, imagine the three of us as belly buddies

birthing healthy, beautiful babies in 2012!
PAC will u be trying again come October?? So exciting! I feel like you girls have been through everything with me, hooray for bb

**Char-leighs mum** · September 10th, 2011, 09:25 PM

Hey All
Diamond girl its great to finally gets some answers why this has been happening. May I ask what blood clotting disorder you have I too have one Factor V Leidin mutation heterozygote only finding out after having a stillborn @35wks. I got a surprise

on Tuesday and am off to the ob on Thursday to start my clexane injections. So i'm a little all over the place atm with my emotions.

Me 31

DH 33

Phoebe Grace 24/02/2006

May 2010

Char-leigh 04/03/2011

due May 2012

**Freya** · September 10th, 2011, 09:28 PM

Diamond; was it antiphospholipid syndrome? If so, thats what I have too, and I have to take asprin and have clexane shots til 37wks. Im glad youve finally got answers!

Telly, glad you got your results back and everything was fine! How cute is your Dh!

Im getting really really clucky now *sigh* No TTC until December/January though. Being in this holding pattern sucks. Im trying to get motivated to get fit and shift the last of this pregnancy weight that just wont go away but I honestly cant be stuffed right now with everything else thats going on.

Cycles are still completely whacky too.

Im so excited for some of you TTC soon!!!

**dantri** · September 10th, 2011, 09:30 PM

Hi ladies, so glad to hear your news DG and Telly! Hope there will be BFPs all round this month (or early next month

) and one for you too Pac if you've put your name in the hat lol!

I had a bit of a meltdown on Friday after I couldn't get my blood results to see if my platelets were still up. Feel silly about being so anxious but at the time I couldn't rationalize it and was very worked up. Anyway, alk came back good and my doc said we could go ahead and work on making that perfect baby. Cd 6 and we are most definitely going to give it everything we've got

For the first time since my miscarriage I am starting to feel not only hopeful but that fluttery giddy warmth and excitement about the whole thing. Hope that makes sense and you guys are feeling that a bit too.

So I say go Team Winter 2012 Baby!

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**tellytubby** · September 10th, 2011, 09:46 PM

Oh freya, I am so so clucky too.. Every baby I see is making me grin from ear to ear. When your hubby comes home, will it be only for dev/Jan? Hope you guys get a bfp first go. Are you taking your pre pregnancy vitamins? And I Hear you on the weight, I just can't get motivated either!

Hi char-leighs mum

I actually thought about you, While reading DGs post. I responded to your thread yesterday. Congratulations again

. How are you liking bb so far? This site has become such a huge part in my life, I really hope you're finding the support you need.

Dantri, yep! Those beautiful, warm fuzzys. That anticipation... We are trying to have a baby! Eek! Winter babies! Let's do it! Hahaha! Xx

I didn't tell you all as it really has nothing to do with anything, but I cut my finger this week with the husbands filleting knife. It went in one side, and completely out the other. We had to call an ambulance as I couldn't pull the knife back through. So yes... Typing these messages is taking me forever!!! Lol!

Anyone on Fb and want to be my friend? Pm me

**Freya** · September 11th, 2011, 09:43 AM

Wow what a surprise char-leigh's mum! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9mths!

Telly, no when he is home he is home for good (yippee!)

**diannescruffy** · September 11th, 2011, 09:47 AM

I just want to give all you girls a massive

.

Regards,
Dianne

**Miss.September** · September 10th, 2011, 09:49 PM

DG - That's great you got some answers! Fantastic news!

Freya - I hear you on the getting clucky

Not long until your trip!

Telly - next cycle we're all go. Fingers crossed. I'd like to have a big beaming smile on my face by Christmas!

Char-leighs Mum - Congratulations! Here's to a smooth nine months.

Dantri - Got my fingers crossed for you hun! I know that giddy feeling that you're talking about

We're still waiting the month out. Waiting for AF and then we can really get going again. So for the first time in forever, I'm actually wishing AF would hurry up and get here