Hi Kristy,

Firstly, words cannot express just how deeply sorry I am on the loss of your beautiful boy Harrison & also his twin as well. It just broke my heart to read your story.

The lovely ladies here on BB are so extremely compassionate & understanding & caring, & while I don't know anything about VATER's, I'm sure that somebody on here will. There is a huge wealth of knowledge between all the ladies & I myself have learned so many different things since I've been a part of it.

I have to admit, the people who have told you that it's just the early days have made me upset! You have every right to feel every emotion that you want to & take your own time to grieve. It's never going to be easy when you have a broken heart. Of course you want baby Harrison back, that feeling will never go away, I just hope that your Doctor can give you some answers on why he was taken from you. Have you made a special place in your house that is dedicated to Harrison. I know some of the ladies have a special shelf or cupboard or their mantlepieces are the places where they place their memories & different things of their angels. Lots of women even make beautiful rose gardens complete with water features etc... Maybe you could make something like that in your home & put some candles around and light them in remembrance of Harrison & his twin. Perhaps you even have photo's or hand and footprint plaques that you could display?

I wish you (with a huge sadness in my own heart), the strength to continue and the best of luck when meeting with your Doctor to hopefully find you some answers & give you some type of closure.

We are always here to lend a shoulder & a listening ear.

Love Jayne xox