Hi Kristy,

I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am to hear of the loss of your son Harrison and his little twin. I wish I had some magic words that would somehow ease your pain or make a difference to the way you are feeling, but unfortunately I know that there just aren't any.

I lost my first child - my daughter Georgia - at 2 days old in March 2004. I had suffered serious complications towards the end of my pregnancy and she was delivered early at 35 weeks, but sadly it was too late for her. I remember the days/weeks/months after her death like it was yesterday and I really feel for you and the position that you are in at the moment. I can honestly tell you though, that time does ease the pain. (Sounds like an awful cliche I know, but it is true). I still miss my daughter every single day, but with time it doesn't hurt as much to remember.

I hope you will keep visiting. Like Mel said above, talking to others really does help. I am very grateful to many of the girls here for the support they gave me after I lost Georgia. I spent a lot of time at home on the computer (on BellyBelly) when like you, I didn't feel like going out and facing the world. Give yourself time and go when you feel ready. Don't be upset with yourself if you aren't ready straight away. It is a pretty daunting prospect, I know.

I will be thinking of you and will check in again to see how you are going...