Kristy,
When i lost me little girl, i was not given the option of hiding away till i could cope,,,my first born (DS who was at the time 15 months old)had to have heart surgery in brisbane only 3 days after i birthed her. I just kind of went into auto pilot as i had to be there for him. We also nearly lost him in surgery, and i think my little sweet angel had him in her arms,was looking over him and keeping him safe.
For a VERY long time after we got home finally though,,,I was so bottled up inside,and just refused to let myself greive. I felt that if i kept strong, did not cry, and kindoff refused to break down, all the hurt would go away. I ended up with depression, and it just made my whole greiving process so much longer. It also did not help that it came back to me that family had been commenting that I must not have felt anything for her, as I did not shed a tear at the funeral. But I was trying to keep it together long enough to make it through till after my sons surgery, as we had to leave for brisbane only 20 minutes after the funeral.
While they did not mean to be so callous, they just could not understand that this is the only way I could get through all this at the time.
I would really try to get out with your hubby if you feel you can hun, somewhere away from ppl, maybe by a river etc, and just "be together". he is hurting too, and at this time, you can be each others strength. I made the mistake of shutting everyone out, and so did my hubby,,,,,,,it nearly tore us apart.
He sounds so loving, and really wants to be able to get through this together.
I really hope that somehow, the two of you can figure out how to deal with this time in your own way.