BG, I think you misunderstood me. I dont think we should raise kids to do as they are told without explanation or to just 'suck it up'. I was just saying that we often encounter that as adults and that we need to prepare kids for the way the world is.

There are times when arguing the point is not appropriate and can lead you into all sorts of problems (as a teen/adult). And, yes, there are times when you do just have to accept things you dont like, even if you dont understand the reasons behind it.

Trust me, my DD is far from a compliant robot. She is free-thinking, questioning, imaginative, rebellious... Do I expect her to do as I say? Yes. Do I explain to her why I want her to do particular things? Most times. But I know that she understands when it's appropriate to argue the point or refuse to comply.