fair enough

even as an adult, i will question anything i don't understand though - it may not seem appropriate at the time, but in the long run, understanding at the time has saved a lot of stress later - DH's recent cancer treatment is one case in point - i decided to just accept that medicos in emergency knew what they were doing in terms of dressings and things - even though in my gut something felt wrong, i didn't push my questioning and he ended up with infections, graft died, weeks of nurse visits and additional surgery. the second surgery, i didn't leave until i knew exactly what was going on and exactly why. the nurses seemed peeved with me, but when we ended up back in emergency that night, i knew what the surgeon wanted in terms of dressings, so i didn't let them put the type they wanted to - which would have likely resulted in graft death and massive infection again - i had to argue with them, and justify it all - and again, i know they weren't happy - but DH ended up with no infections this time round and his graft has taken.

yes, it's important to know when to argue and when to let sleeping dogs lie, but sometimes, you need to have the confidence to argue even when you (or others) think it may be inappropriate to do so. kids can only learn that by being taught about limits when they're growing up/developing. they will learn to pick their battles only if we give them the tools/knowledge on how to pick them...